I feel like my husband doesn't want to be with me anymore. He has tried to start an argument all day and I wont let him. We aren't speaking to each other and if he speaks its to call me names. What are some things I can do to try and fix this?
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Last Updated: 02/21/2022 at 9:13am
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If he made his choice to be negative towards you, for whatever reason, not much you can do about his choice.
What you can control, though, is your own relationship to your values and beliefs first.
Also, you can control 50% of the relationship with him.
In your situation, I found it best this way:
First, I take the opportunity, to recheck my values again, to see what standards are acceptable and unacceptable for me, to remember again what I want in a relationship, how I like to be treated etc. So, inner work, it's a great opportunity to do this work, as this work also impacts the current relationship positively the most (from your perspective, even if breakup will happen because his choice, at least you protect your integrity, needed for next relationship)
Secondly, in parallel, this means space given to your partner, which HE NEEDS, no matter the reason he has for treating you like this. People will do the same thing when they want distance (doesnt matter the reason), they start to treat bad the other person. It's a bad strategy, but we all do it, because it's easier to be negative, than to be positive (honest, courageous, loving, patient, calm, etc)
This strategy saved my relationships or saved myself from bad relationships since I started doing it, so i hope it helps you too.
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