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I liked this guy and he liked me. Back after a few weeks ago I told him that I don't want to date and he was ok with it. After a month he said that things got boring he doesn't like me. He is dating now but I still love him. What can I do about how I feel?

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Last Updated: 02/08/2021 at 5:19pm
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Lucie555
February 8th, 2021 5:19pm
It seems hard to answer such a question without asking many more questions. It sounds like you had a relationship with this guy and then decided to end it (told him you don't want to date) if I understand it correctly. He seems fine with it at first, but then he said it is boring and he doesn't want to continue in it. He moved on, he is dating another girl(s), but you still are in love with him? I am not sure whether you would like to be with him again, or you would like to move on as well. There are really these two options it seems. In both, it would be great to take some time to think about how you are feeling and what would be the best (and also the worst) possible result, and how to achieve it. Do you feel like being with him? Do you think it is possible? The best way how to find out is to talk to him. Tell him how you feel, tell him what happened, explain the whole situation and the changes, tell him why he should consider you back and how you two could work together. And then wait for how he responses. Do you feel like not being with him, do you feel like you would like to move on? But there is something that is keeping you back? Find out what it is! Why do you love him? What is that you like about him? What is that you don't so much? Why did you want to stop dating? There must have been some good reasons for that. It is good to see the person as a whole, with his positives and his negatives. Remind yourself what the negatives are and why you wouldn't work. But most importantly - give yourself time, be patient. It is hard to stop loving someone. Even when you realize he is not right for you, it takes time to stop having feelings for this person. Because the racial mind and emotions are two different things. Give yourself time. Keep taking care of yourself, your friends, do what you love. But also allow yourself to feel sad and feel grief or other emotions. Not being with him is the best way to stop loving him. It just requires time to actually feel that way.