I love my 9month old boyfriend a lot, but we don't have a future together under any circumstance. It always makes me sad because I love him. Should I break up or continue till its okay?
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Last Updated: 08/17/2020 at 9:20pm
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I'm not quite sure with the question but I'm assuming that you mean you're in a 9-month-old relationship with your boyfriend. Enjoy what's happening now, don't think about the future just yet. Break up with someone if you're falling out of love and not because of these type of reasons.
Why do you believe there is no future with them? There very well may be! You must remain hopeful of what the future holds. We are happy when we balance the importance of our present with that of our future. If your relationship today is bringing you growth and happiness, then allow it to carry out its purpose in your life. Growth and happiness is not always in the form of good days and enjoyable experiences, but it can come out of arguments and incompatibilities as well. Learning to understand a new perspective and to be supportive to someone while being supported by them all lead to our growth. If you feel that your relationship is healthy and brings you enough growth and joy, then do not worry about what the future holds. Let life happen to you.
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