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I'm love with my best friend, but he's gay. What do I do?

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Last Updated: 03/16/2021 at 10:20pm
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FrostWire
January 8th, 2020 12:08am
Well; if it's love you speak of, what can you do to better your friends understanding about your tenderness about them? Is this person going to really be that significant other while in their current position in life? I did this whole relationship that you've started within your mind originate within your mind due to great conversations through relationship after relationship? If you made your world evolve around this one person; would they appreciate you for whom you are? I mean: Is this person's goals and standards good for you an your future within socialism or even better, parenting if that ever will or has ever been a significant thought about it coming into a realistic view of your own?
LF2856
March 16th, 2021 10:20pm
Be open and honest with your friend. You know them better than anyone and vice versa, so he will know if something is bothering you, and overtime that secret might drive a wedge between you two. However, if you are honest and open enough to tell him what is going on then you both can work out a solution on how to move forward with your relationship. Just because someone is gay, does not mean they cannot or will not reciprocate the feelings you have for them similarly. Emotions are very complex and its all about how two people make each other feel. You two probably spend a ton of time together, and if you are feeling this strongly maybe he is as well. If not, then the friendship will still be there for you to fall back on.