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I'm too short for a guy to date. What can I do?

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Last Updated: 12/30/2020 at 12:58pm
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May 18th, 2017 6:02am
Oh lovely, you aren't too short for a guy to date. You haven't crossed paths with the right ones yet! Someone will love every single thing about you, but when you meet The One, you'll have a connection which makes all of the physical things fade into irrelevance. We only have the bodies we're born with, and while there are some things we can adjust with lifestyle, there are some things which are just us; that's how we're going to live in the world. I'm short, and my soul guy is 6'. We have a giggle about it, but the honest truth, and I know it's hard to imagine if someone has said, or implied, something like "You're too [anything]....." in the past, but when you do meet someone who is right for you - none of that matters. Pick out some things you like about yourself, emphasize your wonderful qualities, and wear clothes that make you feel confident, and comfortable. Keep your head up, and focus on the times you felt so proud of yourself that you walked tall and it. felt. GREAT. If you find you can't bring them to mind, imagine the ideal you - confident in your height, and confident to be the very best version of yourself. You are more than enough.
June 2nd, 2017 9:24am
Wait... You're too short for a guy to date you?? Or a guy won't date you because he thinks you're "too short"? If someone thinks that you're "too" much of anything (besides positive things like you're too beautiful/handsome etc) then I don't think you should even want to date him. He should accept you for something you are. You can't just have a growth spurt all of a sudden. And unless you want to wear highheels all the time, I would step away from him and be like, "Okay man, you're missing out on a lot of this *gestures at self* just because of my height tho."
June 10th, 2017 4:40pm
Do you love him? Does he love you? Do you genuinely respect each other? Are you happy together? If the answer to these questions is yes, then height should not matter. Nothing else should matter actually. Just be together like there is no limit at all. And simply enjoy it.
June 10th, 2017 8:41pm
It's common to be self conscious about physical characteristics that you cannot change. But, there's nothing wrong with being short. Try and embrace it. There are some guys that prefer shorter heights and find it incredibly attractive.
June 11th, 2017 2:45pm
The best thing you can ever do to yourself is self acceptance. You are your best enemy but also best cheerleader. You are worthy of anyone.
July 3rd, 2017 3:13am
If anyone thinks you are too short then you shouldn't date them anyways. Find someone who likes you for you.
July 5th, 2017 2:01pm
Ask yourself what positive attributes you have as to why a guy would want to date you. You need to question why are you looking at your shortcomings instead of your virtues.
July 9th, 2017 3:30am
If someone doesn't like you because of your height, then it's their loss. Don't try and change something about you so someone will like you. You are fine just the way you are and someone will come along that will like you as you.
July 28th, 2017 4:46am
You should just be yourself. It shouldn't matter how you look. Be confident of yourself, that's all it actually matters. If a person doesn't like your height it's their miss. Your perfect partner should like you in anyway and it should mean more since they like you for who you are but for what they see.
August 4th, 2017 3:32pm
As a fierce woman of 4'11, I'm here to say that height does not need to get in the way of a relationship. You may be feeling as though you are too short for other reasons, such as self-consciousness. Considering why you feel "too short" rather than treating it as a fact may help you remove the obstacle.
August 10th, 2017 7:37pm
I don't think there is much to do when it comes to your height. Excuse me, but I think it's quite unusal for guys to have this specific height 'criterias'. I mean, preference is alright but if he is not willing to date you for your height, maybe you could talk to him and ask what he means about it. Maybe he wants to date you, or maybe you can wear high heels to absolute 'satisfy' him. I just hope he doesn't reject you for your height, that is a little silly of him if I dare to say that.
August 18th, 2017 9:25am
You're not too short for a guy to date you, height isn't a relevant factor when it comes to emotional/romantic involvement, if your height bothers the other person that much they're most likely not the one for you, appearance does play a role but it isn't the point of any relationship, beauty is a perspective so in my genuine opinion the only thing you can do is love yourself for who you are, discover all the good qualities and little things that make you your unique self, eventually you will find someone that doesn't care about such superficial things like your height or weight, someone who will see you for the person that you are and love all the little things you don't like about yourself, he's out there so don't lose hope.
August 18th, 2017 10:14pm
Your physical appearance should not affect your relationship if you truly wish to be together and love each other.
August 19th, 2017 8:06pm
It must be true that many girls prefer a tall guy to date, but you must think that when it comes to being with a person you're fond of, those trivial things don't matter anymore. So you're too short? Then make up to it by improving on your other qualities! If you can't change one quality, then improve your other points. At the end of the day, your girl won't be minding your height, but your heart.
September 3rd, 2017 8:56pm
Youre not too anything, all of your unique differences make you you! And your height could end up being what the right guy notices first! You never know. So if youre short, be proud and own it, because thats just one thing about you, there is so much more to you than your height and the right guy will hang around long enough to realise that :) be proud. Be you. And the right guy will come to you.
September 12th, 2017 1:58pm
What do you mean by you are too short? Is this based upon your perceptions of what is "too short" and you therefore cannot date him? Or has the guy expressed that he will not date you because you are too short? If it is the latter, then why would you want to be with someone who had rejected you because of your height (an attribute you cannot control?). Focus on developing the attributes that you can control (like your character and personality), and I'm sure there will be a guy out there who will appreciate all of you, including your shortness!
October 2nd, 2017 1:41am
Take it from someone who is just under 5 feet (and that is with fluffy socks on!). There is no such thing as too short for a guy to date--- the bottom line is you need to embrace your height and accept that its part of who you are and if the receiving end cannot appreciate it then it wasn't meant to be. There are couples who end up together where there is over a foot difference between the guy and a girl---both the girl being taller and the guy being taller---and same with guy guy. and for girls to feel the need to hide their height or wear 4 inch heels to meet the standards of a guy, then its not the right guy to begin with. the person who will love you for you and you for them won't notice your height and the ones who do are just passing ships that were never meant to be to begin with so you got off lucky that you didn't waste more time than you had to to find that out!
October 26th, 2017 1:45am
Did someone tell you that? Because height and attraction is in the eye of the beholder. Just because one person doesn't want to date a "short" person, doesn't mean someone else won't find that attractive.
November 3rd, 2017 9:22pm
If height is something that becomes a deal breaker for someone, then that person isn't for you at all. Height standards are biased on both sides: some men get intimidated by tall women, some women get disturbed by short men. And it's all based on this idea that the man should be tall and the women should be slightly below them. But there are people out there who don't care about height for either gender identity. My boyfriend is at least two, almost three inches shorter than me. That was something I cared about back in high school when i watched a lot of movies. But once I got into the real world, I saw how much it really didn't matter. A human is a human. You will find someone who accepts you, and someone you accept.
November 9th, 2017 7:11am
There is no "You Must Be This Tall" sign in front of the date ride at Six Flags! People come in all different shapes and sizes. And people fall in love with other people of all shapes and sizes. I know it sounds cheesy to say it's whats on the inside that counts. But it's true :)
November 9th, 2017 11:10pm
Try looking for someone who is open minded and will accept you for you! It is important to accept others for their differences
November 12th, 2017 7:12pm
Learn to embrace it, and then look for people who don't mind someone being shorter. I have been with many people who are shorter than me, and it never bothered me.
November 13th, 2017 6:06am
You're not "too" anything. You should learn to love yourself first, then find a guy who loves you for you
November 13th, 2017 10:36pm
Find a better guy. He's not worth your time if he won't accept you for who you are. I know many guys who LOVE short girls; I'm 5'1 myself. Just remember you're beautiful and you don't need to change for anyone, no matter who it is that's making you want to change.
November 15th, 2017 11:25pm
There's someone out there for everyone you just have to look deeper. Anyone who looks at your height rather than to get to know you doesn't deserve you.
November 18th, 2017 3:36pm
Currently, my daughter, who is 5 feet 0 inches is dating a very nice guy who is 6 feet 4 inches. They love each other and it has nothing to do with how tall they are. I think that perhaps the issue is not that you are too short, but maybe that your confidence isn't as high as it could be. Your beauty is not hidden in the inches you feel you are lacking. Your beauty is in your smile, in your personality, your soul, your heart. There are parts of you that nobody else has, and that makes you amazing. Even things as simple as the way you laugh, the things that inspire you. Rather than focusing on things you do not have (and can't get), focus on the things you do have... on the things that are *ARE*.
December 7th, 2017 12:00am
you can never be too anything too date anyone, what matters the most is you are you and eventually someone will fall in love with everything that makes you you
December 8th, 2017 1:03pm
I know of a few stories of short guys who had enough self-confidence to date taller girls, but assuming that's not the case- i would advice u to date girls who are you're highet or shorter. but, if there's someone you like, even if she's taller, i would advice you to try dating her anyways, who knows - maybe she would'nt mind (although most girls i know do)
December 8th, 2017 11:35pm
No such thing as being "too" short! Different people ~different preferences!OR~find a short partner♡
December 14th, 2017 6:15pm
You can either find a guy who likes short people, find a short guy, or accept your height and love yourself because what guys think of you doesn't matter.