I'm too short for a guy to date. What can I do?
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Height can be a preference, but shouldn't dictate the rest of your love life. I'm 4'11 and my partner loves me to death! Shorter or taller, someone will eventually come around and see that your height is a unique part of you!
If you feel insecure about your height, and he won't date you because of it, then it seems that he might not be a good fit for you or anyone else. Judgemental people can be very difficult to deal with, so try to find someone who accepts you for who you are.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2018 6:38pm
You are never too short to date anyone! If they really like you they would take you out, no matter how tall you are. I am pretty sure there's no one out there that looks at height for one of the factors to if they want to date the person
As a certified hobbit, I relate to this question pretty well. If a guy is unwilling to date you due to your height, then next. You can totally find better, but if you really really like him, then maybe consider learning to comfortably walk in heals.
Someone out there is going to be the perfect size for you. They might be taller, or shorter, or just right, but that person is out there waiting for you. It's just a matter of time.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2018 3:32am
You may feel that way, but you're not too short! Plenty of guys would love to have a shorter significant other. I wish you the best of luck in all future romantic endeavors.
Height is just a number! It is understandable that everyone has different preferences in relation to dating, however, it is the personality that counts! Just be yourself, however, if this guy doesn't give you a shot just because of your height than he wasn't worth your time anyways!
Don't change yourself. If you start dating or get in a relationship, then that person should love you for you and who you are
Anonymous
January 18th, 2018 5:31pm
Be confident about whoever you are, in this case the right person will like you anyway exactly in the way you are. If you are comfortable with yourself, other people will comfortable among you, too
For love,height, image, weight is not important. The size is just an exterior. You must love yourself and believe that you are someone to be loved. You may be short, but we're all beautiful. Boy's just a stupid factor.
Believe me, whether you're 4" or 6", when it comes to real love height isn't an issue. My guy is an inch shorter than me and if he had thought he was too short to be attractive to women, we would've missed out on the loves of our lives.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 12:34pm
You're not ''undateable'' just because you're short. You're perfect they way you are and someone will appreciate every aspect of yourself, just like you need to do.
I'm pretty short too tbh, but you know what if some guy won't date you because you're too short then he's not worth it. Embrace you're shortness because being short just makes you look more adorable. There is 100% a guy out there who will date you regardless of how short you are or whatever. You just gotta keep looking :) Your prince charming is out there.
Personally, being the bisexual lady I am, I have dated many short guys! I think all of my boyfriends have been on the shorter side actually, to be honest! Don't worry about it :) You will find the right person!
height doesn't mean you can't date someone unless it's a problem with the other person. If so then know that it doesn't make you less beautiful or less of a person. Try to cope and move forward, someone is out there that will love you the way you are.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2018 9:18pm
Your height doesn't deprive you from having a date or a boyfriend or an romantic relationship. Try to accept yourself for who you are and find someone who accepts you as well.
There's nothing as being 'too short' when it comes to dating. It can make you more stresses or anxious when it comes to find the signifficant one. What's important is your personality and how you make feel others. And I'm sure you don't want to date someone who will love you for the way you look, but you'll want to be loved for who you are. And don't forget, being short is nothing to be ashamed of. I'm sure you rock it! :)
No one is too short for dating. I have a friend under 5ft who has been in a steady, loving relationship for three years and other friends who have had good dates despite their own height. There are plenty of people out there, of all sizes, who have wonderful love lives. Size is rarely a problem. But if your height really bothers you that much, there are various clothes and accessories that can either draw attention away from that or add the illusion that you're taller than you are in reality. You may want to consider that height might not be the reason you're hesitant about dating; usually, when people focus on a physical flaw, there's an underlying reason for that.
Whether or not you are “good to date†(so to say), your height shouldn’t define that. If someone is really interested in you, your height and appearance should not be of importance; what really matters is your character and personality, etc.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 6:13pm
You are too good for him to date if he thinks you are too short. Find someone who accepts you the way you are.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 8:02pm
You're never to anything for a guy and you should never try to change anything about yourself. When you find the right guy you won't be too anything for him.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 10:56pm
Find someone who thinks you are good enough regardless of height. Height is just a number, you are more than that.
There's nothing wrong with that and someone will eventually have feelings for you at some point. Height is not that important :) Tiny people are cute
If 2 people truly love each other, height shouldn’t matter. Find the right guy, and enjoy your time with him
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2018 7:44pm
Don't let your height hold you back from Dating who you want, if you Love this person then how tall you are shouldn't be a issue.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 2:23am
That may not necessarily be true.
It is a social construct whether or not you are supposed to date, and it is up to you whether or not you would like to overcome that.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 3:58pm
ANYONE can date! Why do you limit yourself because of your height? There's bound to be someone who will love you. Height isn't a problem if the other person truly loves you.
Everyone's definition of beauty and attractiveness is as unique as they are. There is no such thing as a characteristic that makes you automatically unappealing.. in fact the exact opposite is true; Being short may be one of the things that the man of your dreams finds irresistible about you! Celebrate yourself because you're worth it!
You're physical height shouldn't matter in a relationship. If you truly like this person this shouldn't be an issue. Be proud of who you are and own it.
I've always been short, it runs in the family, and I have run into the same problems and insecurities. Body image can be a very delicate thing, and is very subjective. In your opinion, you may be too short, but to someone else, you may be the perfect height. If you're speaking of a specific guy who won't date you simply because of your height, I'd recommend asking yourself if someone who is negative about your body, should be someone you enter a relationship with. If your height is something that bothers you personally and you'd like to change, there's always options such as heels, etc, but it should NOT EVER feel like it's something you have to do. Don't change yourself for anybody, because as soon as you accept yourself for who you are, faults and all, you're life with get a whole lot better. :)
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