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I'm too short for a guy to date. What can I do?

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Last Updated: 09/18/2020 at 11:07pm
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May 20th, 2018 1:51am
Of course you’re not too short, no such thing. There’s somebody for everyone in this world and being short is wonderful! Each to there own, be yourself !
May 27th, 2018 7:06pm
There aren't short or tall individuals: only human beings. Then there are also others whos fun or job is to criticize and judge others just for the sake of it but mostly because they follow their "fault finding mind" which always orders them to find mistake and faults to blame in the others. Have you ever seen a perfect tree? A tree with a straight trunk with branches completely straight and of the same length with leaves all green and without a scar? You wouldn't because such trees don't exist. We are like trees in a forest, some have crooked trunks, some are straight, some have few branches left some others just started growing, some trunks are seemingly in good conditions while all have scars in their barks and a foliage made of all types and colours of leaves. Walk in a forest and find out that you are shorter than a oak but taller than a blade of grass. You are perfect the way you are and certainly, you are also good enough to be the guy to date.
June 1st, 2018 9:19am
Apples come in different shapes and sizes. But we all cherish the ones that give us the best experience, don't we? Similarly just cause you may be short doesn't mean you are disqualified as a potential partner. It is always the personality that matters. Meanwhile, there are many girls I have met including myself who prefer short partners..cause we are short ourselves! So don't fear my matey!! Love will find your way. Your Truly Viola
June 15th, 2018 5:00am
You aren't too short and if someone tells you that, you need to find someone else anyway. Confidence and self respect are your keys to the kingdom here.
June 20th, 2018 7:13pm
You have to be yourself. You don't have to feel unconfortable because you are short. IF somebody likes you, they will ike you just the way you are
June 22nd, 2018 6:46am
There is someone out there in this world for everyone. You will eventually find the right person. Height is not a factor in establishing a strong and loving relationship. Keep a journal of all the guys who are attracted to you and approach you for a date and imventory your feelings towards them. Maybe you sell yourself too short. No pun intended
June 22nd, 2018 5:56pm
You are never too short. Everyone likes different body types, heights, colors. Just be yourself you’ll get a date.
June 23rd, 2018 8:14pm
He doesn’t deserve you if you are too short to date.Men should love you for you. There are many fish in the sea.
July 8th, 2018 3:47am
Height doesn’t matter when you find the right person for you! If he can’t see the beauty in you, his loss. You’ll definitely find someone for you, but not yet. I promise you that you will!
July 19th, 2018 8:39am
You can never be too short to date. I get it, a lot of people, especially girls, prefer tall men, but that doesn't mean all do. There are a lot of potential partners who look for a great personality and if you have that, they will ignore your height. Besides, there's always someone who is shorter than you.
July 19th, 2018 9:30am
You are never 'too .....' ever. All that matters is your personality. This may sound cliche, but it's true.
July 21st, 2018 2:20pm
Don't try to date guys who think you're too short for them. You can't change your height, but you can change the guy.
July 25th, 2018 11:36pm
The kind of partner you want isn't one who cares about your height. There are plenty of endearing qualities much more important to women than any physical trait. Kindness, humor, empathy, can you cook? Do you listen to her and support her. Your height has almost nothing to do with your capacity to love or to be a great lover.
July 26th, 2018 12:32am
I'm sure not every guy is looking for a tall girl. Everyone has their preferences, I say to be comfortable in your own skin and wait for your soulmate :)
July 26th, 2018 3:14pm
If anyone tells you that you're too short for them to date, that is one less person out of the billions out there who are just waiting to see your potential. Just because you're physically smaller in stature compared to others doesn't mean you don't have a super awesome personality attached
July 27th, 2018 4:10am
Nobody is too short to date. There are all sorts of people out there that are looking for different things, including personality, so looks aren't necessarily important
August 8th, 2018 9:11am
Height doesn't affect relationships. Your personality might and I'm not going to lie because of course appearance matters but in that sense it's more a general upkeep of one's self. Which is possible unlike height so perk up and increase your height by holding your chin up and take on the dating world.
August 10th, 2018 5:30am
There are definitely people out there who like short people, and there will definitely be a guy out there who likes your height!
August 11th, 2018 5:59am
What you can do is slap that !#$er and find someone that appreciates you for who you are. I prefer shorter girls. I am sure you can find such a person too!| p.s. You're too short? Really? The only problem you have is "You're awesome, the problem is that there is not enough of you" ?? *high five*
August 16th, 2018 5:55pm
You can make friends, and have fun with hobbies and social things. "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Hopefully you will realize that some people will like and date you based on who you are, not your height. Have faith that some people can look beyond height for romantic/sexual/friendship appeal. Besides, if you're having fun, doing interesting stuff, and being an excellent friend to those around you, then people will be more likely to be attracted to you. Or, if you think someone will reject you for your height, deliberately laugh and have lots of fun near them so they see what they're missing out on.
September 14th, 2018 12:36am
There's no such thing as too short for someone to date! If you're outside of someone's height preference, that's on them. Find someone who will love you (and your stature!) 200%, and you'll be a happier person for it. But firstly, and most importantly, if your height is an insecurity, work on that first. Learn to love yourself. Become confident and happy about your body and the things that you cannot change. A small mental exercise that really helps with this is giving yourself positive compliments in your head. It may feel silly at first, but changing your self-talk from negative to positive pep-talk will improve your self confidence. Take the time to compliment yourself daily, and watch your life slowly transform.
September 20th, 2018 4:33pm
Height is one of those traits that people tend to obsess over when it's about themselves, but many people do not even see height as an attraction factor! When seeking out a partner, height is a small and trivial aspect, there is much more to focus on. Don't stress about it, the right person will find you perfect exactly the height you are! For now, focus on becoming the best you that you can be personality wise. Traits like kindness, compassion, sense of humor, and selflessness are much more important in the context of relationships than trivial physical aspects such as heights.
October 21st, 2018 10:23am
no its not like that. its your opinion . love and relationship take place from heart not from physical appearance , and if they are from physical appearance then the relationship is not real or true. So if you want a relationship you just have to be a pure soul and good from heart which i know you are . now you just have to wait a little for that perfect guy who deserves you,who love your soul no matter how you look. So keep calm your prince charming is on his way just wait a little you are gonna find him soon. till then all the best. :)
January 24th, 2019 10:41am
Is that his opinion or yours? If he has stated quite clearly that you're too short for him, then the answer is there; it's not going to happen. In some ways as harsh as that is, it's easier to deal with because it's not something you can change. You can't make yourself taller and nor should you (if it were possible). Of course getting over the guy and moving on is all subjective to how you deal with those emotions and your relationship to the guy to begin with. But, if you just FEEL too short for him to date. That your height reflects your worth and desirability then maybe question that? Why does it? Shouldn't what makes you, you, be your choices. Your actions. Not things that can't change and that really, fundamentally mean nothing... Though that's an outsider's perspective. For you it could be really defining. I guess if it is your insecurity playing up, rather than his preferences could you discuss that with him? Being that vulnerable can be daunting but with it comes at least closure.
March 23rd, 2019 2:44am
Remember that you are you. There are many people out there who are attracted to many different things, and someone out there will see you for you. Attraction is arbitrary for everyone will see the world differently. Some people will be attracted to short people, and some people prefer tall people. Besides be confident in who you are for even short men like Peter Dinklage can date and even get married. Date someone who will appreciate you for who you are. More importantly, appreciate yourself and know that even though others may not see it-YOU are valuable.
March 28th, 2019 10:14am
There is no such thing as 'too short'. You will find someone who won't care about your height. If you like a guy, do you fall in love with their height? No? Well, guys don't look at a girl either and think 'hmm, she's so pretty and has a nice personality but I can't fall in love with her cause she's too short.' Most guys like short girls, they think they're cute. The right person will love you for who you are. If it makes you feel more comfortable though, you could always wear heels or try other ways that make you seem taller. Flared pants, for example, make your legs look taller, just make sure they don't drag across the floor as that will make you seem shorter. Highwaisted clothes might help as well, like highwaisted jeans, skirts, dresses etc. Please remember that it's okay to wear these things to make you feel more sure of yourself but do not just wear this because you think people will like you better if you look taller, don't change for anyone. They'll like you for who you are.
April 4th, 2019 2:49pm
Just like anyone else you deserve love, compassion, and kindness regardless of your height or not. There are many several billions of people on the earth and if you want to have a relationship. Then the girl/guy should love you for who you are and not the height or lack thereof that you possess. I understand that it can be frustrating to be judged off of something that can seem shallow but in this case I think that patience is absolute key. In the meantime, do things that you enjoy like sports, music, video games or cooking and maybe you can meet someone who shares your interests :).
May 15th, 2019 2:22am
That's a rough situation. Most women do prefer a guy taller, despite how "enlightened" they think they are. Your best bet is to get on all the online dating sites where you can filter results by height. Start asking out girls shorter than you. Also don't bring attention to your height but if a girl brings it up just laugh and pretend like you are totally content being short. Also remember that romantic relationships don't save us from the pain and suffering of life. Our mind would rather believe that happiness or contentment would come with some external change like a romantic relationship, but really its just a change of scenery. The struggle for peace is personal and psychological. So while you search for and/or find romance, remember that it's just as important to keep walking down your own personal path of peace and contentment. This might be religious, hobby oriented like painting, or therapy oriented like meditation and counseling.
May 17th, 2019 9:43pm
Height doesn’t matter in a relationship. If you truly love each other that’s all that should matter. Nobody is too short or too tall, everyone is perfect the way they are. Maybe think of it differently? Maybe everyone else is too tall and you are the right size? Size shouldn’t matter anyway, a relationship shouldn’t be built around how tall both of you are but your connection, how you trust each other, understand each other and if you are there for each other. It should be love that matters, not height because at the end of the day they should love you for who you are.
May 26th, 2019 1:15pm
Don't worry, there are some guys out there who prefer a girl that is on the shorter side. There are also some guys out there that are not very tall and who might be looking for a really short girl to date. Short girls have an advantage because there are some guys who find taller girls intimidating, and around short girls, guys might not feel as intimidated. Also, depending on your age, you might be able to grow a little more. Like I am female and I somehow managed to grow while I was in my early high school years. If you don't think you can grow taller, you can always wear heels on dates and that should help you out a bit.