Is there such a thing as 'The One'?

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TheJake
April 11th, 2017 1:17am
Nope! It's all about affinity with your partner. There is not an exact fit for you as a romantic partner out there, but lickily there is a handful of people that are great for you out there. Just keep in mind that you are dating persons and persons are more complex than a series of traits that you like.
CCtheHugAddict
April 11th, 2017 11:43pm
Affection grows over time love. It grows with experiences shared, as well as time spent. I mean no offense, truly I don't, and I urge you to take whatever you may from this. If you believe God made us in twos I won't tell you differently love. Just in my experience and of what I have observed, it's time + experience, it's why so many will have crushes on their friends, love at first sight is lust. However, god very well may have made us in twos love, hold to your beliefs don't let others steer you off if that's a path you have chosen.
blue1green
January 11th, 2017 9:42pm
No, I don't think there is. Individuals are very complex, and for two people to be true partners in life it ALWAYS takes some effort. Of course there are certain values that you want to have in common with your person, and you should know yourself well so that you are aware of what truly matters to you. But the beauty of good relationships is that they challenge you (within a loving, safe bubble), and you grow. To look for "the one" is to avoid the complexities that cause your growth. You will change throughout your life, as will your partner. If you can learn to communicate well together so that both your needs are met, love/respect/treat each other well, and grow together, you will become each other's "the one". It's not easy, but it can happen whenever you're lucky enough to come across someone with whom these conditions exist. Point being... it can happen more than once.
SilentSerenityy
March 10th, 2017 3:22pm
I think that's subjective. There are people we really click with and some, not so much. Those we truly click with are like "perfect" partners and are the ones we all dream of, but I don't think it's always possible to find someone who's absolutely perfect and part of a relationship is learning to accept them as they are and learning to effectively live in relationship harmony with someone.
StormyAngles18
April 27th, 2017 3:33am
I think everyone believes in many different things and in some situations you do find "the one" i think that in this world eventually youll find the one what you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. They may show up unexpectedly or at the perfect time or so it seems like. Everyone deserves to have something to believe in.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2017 3:52pm
I believe there is. There is someone. You just need to go out and find them. You'll think that someone be "the one" but if it doesn't work out then they obviously weren't and "the one" is still out there. Boyfriends and Girlfriends can become Husbands and Wives...some Boyfriends and Girlfriends leave so do Husbands and Wives. But there will be someone else. You just need to have hope.
kitpry
May 9th, 2017 11:58pm
I don't think so. But there are definitely people you connect with more than others, and those who will decide to work with you and work things out with each other, rather than just dropping the ball. Those are the ones to keep. It's not worth fighting for someone who doesn't want you as much as you want them. No one is perfect. I'm not, you're not, they're not. But the ones who can talk openly about misgivings, can work them out, can say sorry and can forgive, those are the relationships that will work out longer and better than anything else.
Vronica23
May 29th, 2017 9:19pm
I think that term is a little relative. Some people are able to find a partner that they spend the rest of their lives with, and that's a great thing. Other people thrive on staying single, and that's great too. For some, a soulmate is a best friend, someone they have no romantic relationship with, but that they still love and connect with, and that's just as great as anything else. Some people have to go through multiple people to find someone, and some find it on the first go. It's all so different for every person. That's why I feel it's important not to compare your relationship status to that of others, and do what's best for you. Search for happiness, sure, but don't rely on someone else to be your entire happiness. Don't feel discouraged when others have something that you don't have yet, because everyone has different timelines, and if it's something that's meant to be for you and your life, it'll come when it's ready to come. If finding "the one" feels like something you're meant to do, don't get discouraged if not every person you date fits the criteria. And above all, don't settle for fear of falling behind.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2017 11:30am
I firmly believe there is. I firmly believe that everyone has a soulamte, and some people have multiple, for different perioids in their life. All in all, it's something to do with beliefs, whatever you believe in and think, but I believe, everyone has someone who was seriously meant for them. You just might not have found yours yet, and that's completely okay.
intellectualBeing3687
July 28th, 2017 2:21pm
In my opinion, "The One" exists. I believe there is a match out there for everyone that will make you feel fulfilled, loved, safe, excited, happy, equal, and cherished. Even with The One, there will be work required for the relationship to last. Nothing is perfect and for any relationship to be successful you must have an equal commitment from both partners. When you meet The One, your soul will often know before your heart and your head... and it may even take some time to realize how special that person is. Once you've seen it, though, you can never imagine your life without them. They will make you a better person just for being in your life and you will have the same effect on them.
katelisalyn
November 14th, 2017 8:16pm
I think so! I think God has a partner destined for all people to serve Him greater and learn how to love Him greater by loving another.
Behappyalways1243
January 8th, 2018 8:24am
It depends on what you think. Some people think there are multiple people out there who could be right for them. Some think there is only one person that could be right for them.
Nichole121002
August 7th, 2018 4:06am
I believe so.....there is someone meant for everyone, with every notch and groove of their personality and being meeting up exactly with yours❤You might find this person now, or ten years from now, but all good things are worth waiting for ❤remember that