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I've been best friends with this girl for 4 years and now she hates me and I don't have any other friends. What do I do now?

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Last Updated: 12/01/2020 at 11:05pm
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Anonymous
February 26th, 2018 6:16pm
Do you know the reason she hates you? People don't usually stop talking to people out of the blue. And if they do, it's not the end of the road. Try occupy your time with different hobbies (eg. painting, chess etc) and you will cross paths with someone who has the same interests as you.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2018 2:40pm
You need to try to find other friends,and if any one of those friends seem cool to you,contact them.And,about your bestie:Tell her how you feel about your friendship,and you know what?Sorry for saying this,but she isn't your real bestie.Why would you have a friend that hates you?I know 4 years is a long time,and it will be a bit too hard to let go,and trust me,everything is going to be fine if you live that hateful friend as soon as possible!I hope this helps,and if it doesn't,i'm sure something else will.Stay strong,I believe in you,don't give up!💗
RheanaHazel
April 16th, 2018 6:07pm
Friends come and go. 4 years is a long time to be friends with someone, but people change, relationships change, and you need to learn to branch out and move on. I am sure that you have other people that your regularly talk to, and it is quite simple to get closer to them :) ask to hang out, talk to them more, you can do it!
yssah
July 22nd, 2019 7:00pm
I'm so sorry you are going through that. I was devastated to lose my best friend when my family moved to another city. Is that how you are feeling too? Tell me more about what happened and what you would like to do. I can help by hearing you out so you can decide the best way to move forward from here. You can do this my friend. And l am always here to support you in doing baby steps towards your goals. It is ok to feel bad when we fail because standing back up and walking forward is next.
TheHelpfulNinja
January 27th, 2020 3:06am
I'm sorry to hear that, it must be difficult to lose a good friend. Have you tried reasoning with her? She may just need some time by herself to collect her thoughts. Sometimes things don't plan out the way we would like them too and it's accepting them that matters the most. The most important part is that friends will come and go in life. You can always make new ones and you can never have too many of them. I know from past experience that relying on one friend for my happiness only leads to sadness when I no longer have them in my life. I knew from then on that I had to make my own happiness and create happy memories with others along side. Have you thought about putting yourself first? Yes it's nice to do activities together with a friend but it's also rewarding to do something by yourself. Find some 'me-time' Have you thought about joining a new club? It's easier to become friends with people when you're able to bond over similar interests. Best wishes -TheHelpfulNinja
Paoola
November 2nd, 2020 6:54pm
For beginning make sure how this claim of Yours is not an assumption. If it happens that she really claims how she hates You or is angry or something, well, I do not know because I do not know background of the story. I can only remind You how some things in relationships or friendships can be fixed, always. Four years being best friend with someone is not a small thing. It is indication of (rare) ability of being loyal. Therefore make sure to see if there is anything You can do. Maybe Your friend just needs some time and space to be alone. This is also an assumption. What to do if one is left alone, friendless ? No one can tell us cause it is up to us and our approach towards Life. From my personal experience I can only say how people are stronger than they think they are. Everything can be overcame. Being alone is not bugbear, we came into this world alone and will leave it also like that. Learn to befriend Yourself. Do not forget, Life is full of possibilities, the key to open them is in our very hands.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2020 11:05pm
If you feel like you can still have a healthy friendship with the girl, you could try communicating and try talking things out with her. But if not, there are so many other people on this planet, you are sure to meet someone you can connect with and be friends with. It might be hard to talk to new people after being close to the same friend for 4 years, but it will be for the better. No matter how much time it takes, opening up yourself again will help you create strong bonds with others. I think trying to enjoy spending time with yourself and finding hobbies in the meantime can help you feel happier.