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My boyfriend and his family insult me. Is it normal for me to be too sensitive about it?

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Last Updated: 08/03/2020 at 6:01am
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Anonymous
September 9th, 2019 1:12am
No you should not allow anyone to insult you or put you down. You need to sit down and speak with your boyfriend and explain to him it’s not acceptable to be treated in this way. If he cares about you which I feel he must, he will speak with his family and tell them not to insult you any more he must take into account your feelings. They all have to stop this is bullying and your not too sensitive. I’m sure you’d do the same for him. It will work out ok in the end. Stay strong
ALAL2019
July 16th, 2018 5:44pm
It’s depends what they did or they say to you. Sometimes others Feel so close so that’s why. They think you won’t feel bad. You must tell them I feel hurt please enough
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2020 11:18am
I wouldn't say that you're being sensitive at all. It's completely normal to feel angry or annoyed when somebody you love insults you, in front of his family nonetheless. I would talk to your boyfriend about what happened and describe how it made you feel. He could honestly just not have realized that he hurt your feelings. Your emotions are completely valid and I know how much it hurts to be insulted right in front of you. Casually bring it up to him that he might not have meant anything bad by it, but what he said hurt your feelings. Communication is key in relationships.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2020 6:01am
Are these insults jokey teasing insults or are they seriously intended as insults? Either way since this bothers you it is ok to talk with you boyfriend about it. Of course it's normal to be sensitive about it, no one wants to be insulted. Is this a part of his families culture and do they insults each other? If so you will have to decide if you will tolerate it. It is unlikely to change. If it is just you they insult talk to your boyfriend. If they won't stop a change of boyfriend may be in order.