My boyfriend cheats on me everytime but I always forgive him and this time he really wants breakup from me but I don't want because I'm emotionally attach to him and with each other family?
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Last Updated: 02/16/2021 at 4:36pm
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Know your worth. If you have low self esteem, try to work on that. Ultimately, you know what is good for you and what isn’t. It is a great time to work on and improve yourself. If your boyfriend cheats on you multiple times, try to analyze how much he values your relationship with him. It’s time you found what’s worth for you. Don’t settle for bad when you can do better. Know your worth and act accordingly.
Anonymous
April 13th, 2020 4:06am
You are an amazing caring and loving person. You are valuable and he should have no power to let your worth down. Prioritize self-love, don't let the attachment consume the happiness and love you deserve. You will surely find someone who will care for you the way you do for them. You deserve so much happiness and you must know you will find your way towards it. Don't stay in a toxic relationship with a man who doesn't respect your loyalty and commitment towards him. Sometimes you have to let things go to make room for better things in life. Take care!
I am so sorry you are going through this. Sometimes we have unhealthy attachments to people and situations that are not to our benefit because we perceive it easier than to go through the process of examining ourselves to make sure that we are healthy emotionally, physically, spiritually, etc and doing the work to make ourselves more healthy. In the physical sense, it is easier to eat easily accessible junk food than it is to plan out a healthy meal and cook. So, in your example, it sounds like it was easier to stay in a relationship that was not mutually respectful than it was to look within yourself and ask yourself why are you allowing this behavior. Why do you think you are not worthy of someone who doesn't cheat and who is respectful of your boundaries? It sounds like it is easier to stay in what you know, than to venture out and make the changes necessary within yourself for change. One of the hardest lessons to learn, is that you cannot use people and situations to keep you from evolving and growing. Change is inevitable. I wish you the strength necessary to work on your own needs and desires outside of this relationship and grow as a person in your own right.
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