My boyfriend just found out he has a 4 year old son who lives on the other side if the country. He is moving there to be with him. What do I do? Do i go too?
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Anonymous
May 1st, 2018 7:36am
Ask him if he’s comfortable taking you along with him. You have to make sure he allows you to go, or it can start drama with his previous relationship. If he does, then tag along and have fun!
In my opinion, I really think you should ask your boyfriend if he wants you to follow or not. Because you don't know if he wants to fix things with his son's mother/just be a father to his son all by himself or maybe he wants you to follow to have someone supportive by his side. No matter what decision he makes support him thoroughly because everyone makes mistakes and learn from it. Be positive for him and yourself. Don't lose hope and come up with any assumptions. Let him clear the problem and explain properly to you. On the other hand, if all this while he was going behind your back and not being loyal to you just say your last words to him and stay away from him. Don't curse or wish the worst for him, because that'll only make you look pathetic and lose your self respect. Just take it as a lesson and go ahead with life and never trust anyone too easily. Let out your tears and whatever that's on your mind, it's absolutely fine. Don't dwell on it or give up on life. Stand up, cheer yourself and carry on with great things in life. You're stronger and you have to prove it. Misunderstandings or break up in relationship is not end of life. Don't come up with any assumptions too fast, at the same time don't trust anyone blindly. You're responsible of yourself. Be patient no matter what challenges are thrown at you in life.
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