My girl decided we need a break because she needs a mental break from everything. We haven't texted unless I text her and we do talk about the situation but we go back and forth. What is something I can do to help her and our relationship?
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Give her more time. Ask her what made her to feel to take space in relation because girls won't take a break unless they feel nothing is left to discuss or more than this. As you didn't mention exactly what's your problem I can't say anything about your relationship but I hope you guys sit together peacefully and discuss the matter and take decisions because a relationship is not just build like that you have made efforts to build so try to make it beautiful rather than leaving it like that... hope you guys make it out and be together I can wish this at least for you...
I have been in this situation before. What we found that worked was to set up one day a week we would get together. We had a relationship/couples workbook we found and we would do a few exercises together. It helped us build trust, understand ourselves, and understand us as a couple. Eventually we added on another day during the week to meet. At that time we did something fun. An escape room box off Amazon, a game of mini golf, going for a hike. Anything that we got to be together doing, that didn't involve us sitting in front of a tv or our phones!
There are many things that can help a relationship and be supportive to both parties.
When in a relationship it is important to be fair to both people. All of us want to be understood and to be heard.
In this situation I hear that your friend wants a break from everything. In addition I heard that texting is initiated by yourself and then there is a back and forth discussion.
Can you remember a time when you needed/wanted space and another person wanted something different? It may help you answer some questions for yourself to understand her perspective.
The best relationships are built on the trust where people do not feel pressured to be anyone except for themselves; where decisions are respected.
Asking a person how you can help while respecting a request for space can be seen as a loving/mindful gesture. As does letting the person know you care and respect the outcome.
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