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Should I date a guy if I love him but he just wants sex?

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Last Updated: 11/23/2021 at 10:52pm
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Anonymous
November 25th, 2020 12:15am
My most honest answer could be: While being with the right person could be a blessing, being with the wrong one could be a lesson. The purpose of being in a relationship should be enjoying the time with your partner, loving each other, supporting each other, and building up each other. A relationship is made up of two partners not only one, with that I meant that if you consider you can walk away after and not being hurt, then you should'll be fine. However, if you are looking for a serious relationship, maybe he could not be the one, and maybe you could be wasting your time with him. Choosing yourself would be self-love, and there's nothing wrong with that. One most love itself in order to love others. At the end of the day, it'll be your decision, just think if the outcome it's worth it...
PeacefulOnes
November 29th, 2020 2:00pm
No. First and foremost I would just encourage you to introspect in order to figure out what it is you respond to in his character. If he's exclusively seeking sex out of a relationship, then he's separating the act of sex from any moral values, which isn't a proper way to go about it. I don't think you'll achieve genuine self-esteem if you're willing to be sexually intimate with anyone indiscriminately, i.e. without any standards. I'll also add that a person who's promiscuous could be a potential health risk to you, so there's definitely that aspect to consider as well.
liquidgalaxy
November 23rd, 2021 10:52pm
I would say, absolutely not. Men like this generally will not change their priorities. These men are okay for hook-ups but if you try to get in a relationship with them, even if they do develop romantic attraction for you, there is a chance they will push your boundaries even far into the relationship because that's what they know as okay. Please save yourself the heartache, and if you can, explain to him that you are looking for a relationship and not somebody to have sex with, as you are on two different sides of things and looking for different things.