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What is the best way to get over someone that you never dated?

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Last Updated: 04/18/2017 at 8:43pm
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windfox3
April 18th, 2017 8:43pm
This is a tricky one. It took me half my life to get over a person that I never dated but loved deeply. It has been a journey of respect and friendship that led me to see that love is this unbelievable element that grows, bends, shifts and changes over time. I still love the person very much, but the love is no longer a romantic flame. The person who I was 12 years ago when I loved them, is not the same person I am right now. I have changed. Likewise, the person who I loved 12 years ago is a totally different version of themselves today. While they are still my friend, they have made life choices that I have come to see were not in line with my own values, nor would our relationship have lasted. How did I cope though when I was young; when I felt like my heart was breaking? I moved forward. I improved my own life, I strived to achieve my dreams, with or without them; because whether they loved me back or not, I had things I wanted to accomplish. I couldn't wait around forever for them to make a decision. I don't know if it's the best way to get over someone, but focusing on your own life and your own goals is always a step in a positive direction. The more new skills you gain, the more confidence you have, the more friendships you build and over time, maybe you too, will see that if it isn't meant to be, the world is still a wonderful place.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2015 8:51am
Realize that theres someone better out there thats perfect for you. Someone that will wanna be with you no matter what
Anonymous
March 12th, 2015 6:52pm
Try and keep yourself busy....preferably with other people. do new things, challenging things that will keep your mind occupied. after a few months your feelings will pass towards that person and you would have made some new friends. but also keep in mind. feelings cant be forced in any direction, time always plays a part.
Allen39
May 4th, 2015 5:50am
Think about other people! Feel free to find some attractive people with blogs online or make new friends in real life. This way, you can make new friends and crushes, and hopefully find someone who likes you back.
HelenSmith
June 4th, 2015 10:24pm
If this is about a crush, it is better to just admit to yourself that it is a crush, it won't last forever and the only thing that will help is time. Because time heals wounds.
Ben19
July 6th, 2015 2:49pm
It can be really hard, labels don't have to be in place to make you really feel for someone, sometimes other people forget that, having someone to share your rough days with lieka good friend is a really nice thing to have, the support can bring you out of sadness and time will carry its course and you will start to let go of your past feelings and move on.
AnnaBanana99
September 15th, 2015 2:37am
Even if they seem perfect in every way, something was missing to lead you not to date. Whether it was because they weren't interested, or the timing wasn't right, or something else. Reminder yourself of this if you are agonizing over what could have been. Make a list of reasons it wasn't meant to be or why they weren't the right person.
Anonymous
September 29th, 2015 3:45am
Time. Just taking time, not trying to think about them, nor avoiding thinking about them. As the thoughts come and go, so too likely will feelings had for them.
MissBuddha87
November 2nd, 2015 5:00pm
First off, unrequited love is one of the most painful. Let yourself take as long as you need to feel within reason. Don't rush into new love when you're not over your pain. Your feelings are valid. Instead, in the interim focus on things that make you happy like focusing on old hobbies are getting new ones. When you are in a relationship or aspiring to be in one, we tend to forget about the most important person: our selves. Take this beautiful time to really, truly love yourself. Explore your interests. Cultivate your own opinions. When you can be your best self, you can be happy being n your own. And, if or eventually someone great comes along, they will be so attracted to and adore your confidence, independence and lust for life. And, you can revel in the fact that you cultivated your strength, independence and interests all on your own.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 3:41pm
This one never gets old. I, myself, used to find it hard to get over someone I never even dated, But, there lies the worse pain. Because you never dated him, you feel the regret. Or you realize the chances you wasted. Or the best of something that you let slip away. But the first step is always the hardest - forgetting. Get a move on, tell yourself that you can move on with your life without that person. Surround yourself with happy people, make yourself happy enough that you'll forget he even existed. Lol And, of course - never forget to love yourself :)
Anonymous
February 10th, 2016 12:01am
Consoling yourself with the fact that you will find someone else, and then may not play a role in your future, helps me a lot.