What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?
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Ask him what the problem is. Try to figure out if something happened or if you did something to cause him to be upset. Try not to get upset. Listen to what he has to say and what the problem.
Try and understand what is causing him to ignore you and give him space until he feels ready to speak to you. If he ignores you for no apparent reason, ask yourself why you're with someone who treats you poorly.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 8:17pm
I know this is hard. But if he ignores you, tell him about your feelings. Tell him how it makes you feel whenever he ignores you. How hurt you feel.
I would suggest giving him some space for a while, make sure he knows he can talk to you though. After you've given him some space ask him if something is wrong and maybe he'll tell you why he's been ignoring you.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 2:34pm
If your boyfriend ignores in any situation, he is not a good boyfriend. You should ask him why he is ignoring me. And if he continues ignoring you or not respond to that question. I usually recommend my friends to find someone better. Since you deserve better than that.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 8:46pm
Maybe give him some space. Let him come to you when he is ready. Then he will probably explain the matter and you can go from here.
You should wait a little while and ty to talk to him n an hour or so. H emay be busy or his phone may be dead or he may be simply sleeping.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 1:31pm
What isn't said sometimes in a relationship is maybe what he wants to say to you. Be your strength..
Dont go after him , if there is something up just let him talk to you and tell you whats up when he is ready and feels like it. Give him his space, but dont go after him too m
ill push him more away.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 8:47pm
Talk to him to find out why he's ignoring you so that you can both resolve the issue among yourselves.
When your boyfriend ignores you , it can be very hurtful. The best thing to do I think is to respect yourself first, just because others treat you differently , it does not mean that you have to do the same to you too. Treat yourself with love. If you boyfriend ignores you it is because he has problem with you or someone else, but it does not mean that you have a problem with you. So probably relaxing , breathing and slowing exhaling negative thoughts away and breathing positive ones. Try to make it clear to him maybe how you feel when he ignores you or try asking him what is wrong and if he would like to talk to you about it, and if he says no or does not respond, then tell him that's okay and that your going to allow him space , but not going to allow him to treat you badly or make you feel bad. Goodluck and love yourself
It would depend on the reason. Most likely he just wants some space. In other circumstances he could be busy with someone else. Confront him and find out why he's doing this
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 9:19pm
Talk to him about it. Ask him why he ignored you, and tell him if he doesn't stop ignoring you, you'll leave him. You don't deserve to be ignored.
Im sure he's not ignoring you, Give him time then talk to him about how you are feeling and let him know how it effects how you feel.
Talk to him openly how you feel, what makes you sad. Its always best to discuss the problems with him directly.
He could be ignoring you because he needs some time alone. So be sure to give him some space. Or it could all just be in your head, so talk to him about it. There can't be once answer, every situation and relationship is different.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 12:10am
You should never have to chase someone. If they care about you, they'll show you. Actions speak louder than words, so don't settle for less than what you deserve.
When your boyfriend ignores you you should.. That's a loaded question. Is he ignoring u for the past 3 minutes because he is on his phone? Are we talking days? Either way, go off and do your own thing as well. When he finally decides to acknowledge your existance, have a talk with him about why he was ignoring you and how that made you feel. If u didn't like being ignored then speak up and vocalize the fact that you will not tolerate a repeat of such behavior.
Talk to him. Tell him what you feel. Ask him what is on his mind, offer him to talk about whatever it might be.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 12:42pm
Find something to occupy yourself. Don't sit around waiting for his calls or messages. If you made a mistake and that's why he's ignoring you then you have to put your pride aside and take responsibility. But if it's for his own selfish reasons then don't wait around for him.
You should ignore him back. You should treat other people as they treat you. You shouldn't ask for attention or beg for it. When he feels like giving attention to you again, you ignore him back, taking into account his past behavior
stop trying to get his attention, and ignore him or he ll take you for granted .. always remember the fear of insecurity is needed or we will loose the respect for each other..
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 8:57pm
Pay him more attention, give him love even if he doesn"t deserve it! When he see your giving him more love than he deserve, he will see his mistake and everything will be OK!
Speak to him and ask if he's alright and why hes been so quiet in recent times, patience and understanding is key
Talk to him about what's going on, ask him if he needs help and talk about how it makes you feel when he ignores you
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2016 10:12pm
See if he needs some space? If it seems intentional and annoys you so much, I'd suggest having a serious sit down with him or if you are early on in your relationship, just end it before it gets too late on
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 3:00pm
Confront them, ask them why they're ignoring you, and try to work on a resolution. If they refuse to work on a resolution, maybe it's for the best you break up since it's not a healthy relationship.
We really have to understand the person we want to love. If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. If we only think of ourselves, if we know only our own needs and ignore the needs of the other person, we cannot love.
Anyone who ignores you isn't worth your time. So he's not treating you like the amazing person you are. That doesn't mean you shouldn't :)
When your boyfriend ignores you it is important to recognize that you may be overbearing, or bothering him. Perhaps more communication would be beneficial.
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