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What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?

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What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?
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Anonymous
August 15th, 2015 1:48pm
Try communicating with him, tell him openly how you are feeling, and what you perceive his actions to be. Best case scenario, he won't have meant to ignore you. And worse case scenario, he now knows how you are feeling and you can hopefully work forward from there!
Katheryn
June 14th, 2015 7:54pm
Talk to him! He is your boyfriend, so you two obviously care about each other and maybe even love each other. Seems like you might need to have a conversation about the fact that you feel like he is ignoring you and how that makes you feel. The only way to find out what is really going on is to talk it out, honestly, openly and respectfully.
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 11:36pm
You should find out why he ignores you and if he gives you a second shot at it and ask him what he thinks and what behavior your doing that is making him ignore you.
Greatlistener87
December 25th, 2015 4:08pm
Tell him that you understand that he needs the space and time and that you are ready if he wants to talk. Then give him the space and time to come back and talk to you.
JK8287
March 18th, 2016 8:26am
There's a funny trick you could do, which is say to him "Why do you love me so much?" At first it might throw him off, but then he'll realize he does! Remember that demand destroys love.
traveller88
February 9th, 2017 2:25pm
Talk to him about how you feel and arrange romantic dates (a walk to the park, drive to the beach, picnics, movie nights- it doesn't have to be expensive) where you dedicate time focused entirely on each other
Arakhthanda
February 12th, 2016 4:22am
I would actually ask about what makes him ignore you. If he continues to ignore, the best strategy is to actually allow him to have time for trying to respond to you and then, later on, break up if he still chooses to do so since a relationship is a two-way communication.
PoliteOcean
August 9th, 2015 6:58am
If you are in a relationship where you feel you are being ignored, then you need to be honest with that person. You should feel you are able to talk with them and ask them why they are ignoring you. If there are underlying issues in the relationship then its time to talk to one another, together and evaluate the relationship that you are in.
Aventurina
June 19th, 2015 9:47am
This is really down to your personal character... There is no 'One Way' to do, that which guarantees that it will give you the attention that you might be wanting from your boyfriend there and then. But, there a couple of experiments you might like to try to see what way is the best way to get through to him. Perhaps when he finally decides to give you the attention you deserve, you can try calmly letting him know how ignoring you made you feel, and if you both could find a way how to better communicate to each other what is happening the next time that it happens. Like for example: you can try going up to him jumping up and down next to him, basically be annoying...until he would HAVE to look at you. Another experiment which you can try which is on the borderline of passive aggression is to ignore him in turn..on purposely.. until he would 'beg' you not to, and then ask him how that felt... basically letting him know that you feel the same way when he ignores you. Perhaps you can even try looking into what he is doing when he's ignoring your. Is he playing a game or studying for something important. Perhaps you could both discuss on setting a time where he could give you the attention that you need. Again the best way is to find the time when you are both quiet together, and speak about how behaviour makes you feel. Together try finding a way of what you can do when this happens. :) Do honour the emotions that arise inside of you when you feel ignored, you need not be ashamed of it. When discussing discuss the behaviour rather than attacking him for who he is.
glisteningLynx61
March 10th, 2016 6:24pm
Well your boyfriend shouldn't be ignoring you . Consider that maybe he is just busy or has a lot going on at the moment which doesn't mean you aren't worth his time it just means he doesn't want to do anything or react in a way that would hurt you . If you know for sure he's just ignoring you then just go on about your life after trying to open a discussion of why you feel that way without making him feel like he's in trouble and well if he continues then maybe you might need to break up with him . But that's not always the case :)
Anonymous
June 9th, 2016 8:56pm
Talk to him about how you feel, if he ignores you make him talk to you. You could ignore him and that would bring his attention to you then talk to him about the problem.
Jasmineh2000
July 12th, 2015 8:25am
let him ignore you, if he isnt going to reply to you why waste your time trying to get a reply, when he wants you he'll message you theb you ignore him back to prove a point
StayAwesome
February 9th, 2017 7:03pm
Don't get yourself too worked up about it, at first. Maybe he's going through a tough time and he just needs his distance. We all struggle through stuff and we sometimes prefer some space. Ask him about it later on. Just talk it out. Avoid fighting because it rarely solves misunderstandings. In fact, it causes more trouble in a relationship.
Peacefulmeditation
August 13th, 2015 10:01am
Don't take it personally. Relax. First, explore your mind to see if it is your own perception causing you to think that he is ignoring you.
Anonymous
March 25th, 2016 8:15pm
Well if he wants to act like you aren't there then maybe have you considered that you don't need to be there? Maybe take in a movie or a stroll on the beach? Read a book or do something that you enjoy?
Anonymous
September 11th, 2017 8:16pm
Perhaps find the root cause and address it. Different situations are different. Just like headaches can happen for different reasons so can the act of ignoring happen for different reasons. What should you do when you have a headache? Depends on what's causing the headache.
LonelyAngels
March 19th, 2016 3:41pm
First, ask yourself, Why does your boyfriend ignores you? Did you do something wrong? If u then assured that you think you didnt do anything then its the time to ask him properly and calmly, :)
Anonymous
March 19th, 2016 8:00pm
Think about why he might to this, how he feels/has been feeling lately, if he's going through a hard time. Try to get a chance to talk to him, show empathy and tell him how him ignoring you makes you feel.
Carleen00
January 29th, 2016 4:37pm
Tell him how you are feeling. People don't always know what we need. It is our responsibility to keep lines of communication opened with our partners so they do.
CDoce
March 25th, 2016 5:30pm
You should talk to him seriously and ask him for clarify. And, together, decide what's the best for both of you.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2017 11:25am
I would try to contact him first, maybe via a telephone ring or text message. I would try to contact him in person at school? If he kept ignoring me, I would ask his best friend politely if anything was going on and that he should tell my boyfriend that I feel as if he is ignoring me and we should talk about it.
assglanimals
August 7th, 2015 8:27pm
You shouldn't worry too much, he is probably ignoring you because he is very busy and doesn't always have time to reply immediately, he's a human too.
MadilynRose
June 18th, 2015 10:47pm
Maybe ask him if anything is bothering him. Sometimes, we get preoccupied or distracted, and end up ignoring those we care about. It might be that there's something on his mind, and if you ask him, it might be a relief for him to know you're there to talk about it. If not, give him some time, maybe. We never know what's going on in someone else's mind. :)
Brittneym101
July 23rd, 2015 4:54pm
Well, I have been through this before, and because of what I been through.. I would advise that you give him that time, but also be cautious. In my situation my boyfriend or ex.. whatever it is that we are he was entertaining another girl. He got mad when I bought it up and let him know that I have found out about her and we got Into an argument through text messages and it wasn't pretty. He got mad because he got caught and because he didn't want any drama he chose her for now. Don't go looking for something because you're bound to find it.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 2:50am
give it time so you know why he didn't respond before deciding what to do don't overreact as you don't have any clue what's going on on the other end
Sweetlolly11
June 28th, 2015 2:09am
If it's a text message for a couple of hours or if he falls asleep while talking, I'm sure it's nothing to worry about, but if he avoids you on purpose or acts like you aren't there when you're with him, that's a serious issue you need to discuss with him. Things like this can only be solved with communication.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2016 2:21am
From my experienced, please try to understand him as well , keep the reason on your why he was ignore ? Maybe he was busy ... keep understand your partner side.. and try to talk to him about your feelings and ask him to spend some little time with you ...
clariageorge
July 25th, 2015 5:37am
If your boyfriend is being ignorant towards you, try speaking alone with him about it. However if he is again ignorant, you need to rethink and question yourself as to why you are in this relationship.
Thanks4Calling
July 26th, 2015 12:08am
First you need to find out why. Does he has personal problems, or is he concerned about your relationship. Once you know the answer you can decide what action to take.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 4:44am
Have a calm nice talk with him and get into a conversation on what's been bothering you and bring up about why he is ignoring you.