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What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?

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What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?
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July 26th, 2015 1:41pm
Try to talk to him about this. You're deserved to be loved and treated well. You're worth it. You should know all of the answers. Just ask him what's going on..
July 30th, 2015 9:39pm
Talk to him. Make him know how you feel, the key here is to talk about your relationship issues. Maybe its only a missunderstanding maybe not, but its time to find out if its bothering you.
July 31st, 2015 11:29am
I think you should confront him. You should be the one who try to communicate because you might not know if he has a problem or not.
August 1st, 2015 6:53am
Talk to him about it. Because he isn't here just for the good part, he's here to listen to you and acknowledge how you feel.
August 2nd, 2015 3:15am
Find healthy ways to distract yourself in the meantime until you next get the chance to talk to your boyfriend in person. In situations like these I notice the more idle we stay and the more we sit around and wait for them to respond the more it affects us and may intensify the situation. When you hear from your boyfriend/speak to him, you can explain that you felt as though you were being ignored and it hurt your feelings. Depending on his answer is how you can handle it from there.
August 2nd, 2015 10:36pm
You should just give him the space he needs if he has anything to say he will say it in his own time
August 5th, 2015 5:27am
Confront him, tell him how he's making you feel. If he won't acknowledge you're hurting, you deserve far better sweetie.
August 5th, 2015 4:59pm
When my boyfriend ignored me it was because he didn't want to be with me anymore. He was also lying to me. Some may want time on their own but I think its best to confront him and ask him why he is ignoring you. Its best to talk through your issues, always.
August 6th, 2015 5:18pm
Talk to him. Don't judge or jump to any conclusions. See why or what is happening? Is he playing a game and ignoring you? Is he with family? Does he ignore you at a specific time? Is he just very unaware of it? .What is the situation? These are some of the questions you should be asking Also, you have to know how it makes you feel. If you feel like you are okay with him playing a game or hanging out with friends, let him know that. Are you okay with it sometimes because when you are with your girlfriends you ignore him? Or is it unacceptable? Find out how you feel. And act accordingly. If you feel like he should at least say something back. I don't think that it is too unreasonable to request that. However at the same time in relationships, both parties need to have room for a personal separate life outside of the one they are with. So saying something where you acknowledge the need for that, but also gently reminding him to not ignore you seems like it would be a good course of action. If you feel ignored, tell him that. Express how you feel and say that it hurts you. And that you are not okay with being ignored because it makes you feel (i.e. unimportant, unattractive, insecure) whatever it makes you feel like. Hopefully, your boyfriend is receptive to you and understands that his actions are affecting your mood negatively. If he is still unaware of it and doesn't seem to understand that you are a person especially if it is becoming habitual consider taking a more serious route. A relationship is supposed to be a bond between two people, and one one person falls short or is lost it can be very difficult to do the right thing. So I would suggest gently reminded him to be more aware of the way he makes you feel by ignoring you. If that doesn't work consider a more firm approach if you think it is necessary. Ultimately, it is up to you what kind of decision you think is appropriate, but don't forget that you are a person and you deserve emotional nourishment and support too.
August 6th, 2015 8:53pm
Give him some time to think, if he is ignoring you he probably needs a little time to think by himself.
August 7th, 2015 10:38pm
If your boyfriend is ignoring you,you should question whether he should actually be your boyfriend. However if you really know he is the 'one' you should ask him why and go from there.
August 8th, 2015 12:45pm
Talk to him about why he is ignoring you. Tell him how him ignoring you makes you feel and in doing that, he'll talk to you about how he feels and both of you can come to a middle ground.
August 8th, 2015 9:09pm
If your boyfriend is ignoring you confront him rather than keeping it to yourself and letting it build up. Let him know that you brought it up because you don't want to be in a place like that and that you feel uncomfortable when you are. Avoid being condescending or forceful, tell him how you feel and try to come up with a solution together
August 9th, 2015 6:25pm
Try talking to him privately about how you are feeling and ask him if he is ignoring you. You may have mistakenly thought he was ignoring you. Something else might be up.
August 12th, 2015 4:04am
You should try to contact him and talk to him about what it is that is going on. Communication is key in any relationship.
August 13th, 2015 1:40pm
You should it down and have a long conversation about how this makes you feel, you can share your worries with him and let him explain calm why he has been doing so
August 13th, 2015 5:13pm
If you feel as though you're being ignored or neglected by your partner, it's best to start an honest dialogue with them about how you feel. In a healthy relationship, all parties need to be open to communication so that the feelings on all sides are clearly expressed and understood. If you're able to talk openly about your feelings with your boyfriend, then together the two of you should be able to come up with a solution that keeps you from feeling ignored.
August 14th, 2015 7:41am
Well that depends on if there is a legitimate reason as to why he is ignoring you. Perhaps he just feels like he needs to be alone or perhaps he needs you more than ever, you know your boyfriend best so it is up to you what you would think the best option is.
August 14th, 2015 6:10pm
First you need to know WHY is he ignoring you. When you are in a relationship, communication is vital and if one of the parts is ignoring the other, it's going to be very difficult to keep it alive. Maybe he is busy at the time and you should know the exact reason so you don't get hurt, and his duty is to explain it.
August 15th, 2015 12:48am
You should talk with him about why he is ignoring you but the more thing i am concerned with is WHY he is ignoring you? Is it something you said? Is it something you did? Is he just an ass? If it is something caused from you, you cant blame him for ignoring you. If you dont know the cause to his ignorance, try talking to him about it. Generally thecworst thing you can do is to ignore him back (reversed psychology doesnt work here, believe me) your boyfriend could be seeking some private time away from you to think of lively issues and to put things in perspective. Every human being needs its solitude and if this is the case, you should give him some space and respect it. Hope this helps!
August 16th, 2015 7:47am
Talk to him and share your concerns. Of course, you should do it after you've given him enough space for a while, but it sometimes becomes necessary to initiate a conversation. Don't shy away from apologizing if you feel necessary. If something you've said is making him keep distance, talk about that and clear up every confusion to bring your relationship back on track.
August 16th, 2015 3:01pm
For whatever reason he has for not talking to you, do the same and keep yourself busy. He could be busy himself. But if he is outright ignoring you to be mean, a conversation should be had between the two of you, about how it makes you feel. Don't play any games or go tit for tat.
August 16th, 2015 10:17pm
Whenever your boyfriend ignores you , You should approach him about it. Yeah , sometimes we get scared and think that talking about it will make things worse but you have to go after the situation head on. Just talk to your boyfriend about why he is ignoring you and try to fix the problem :]
October 24th, 2015 2:30pm
If you have trying to talk to your boyfriend and ignores you, getting distracted by doing other things,for example things that you enjoy doing, or start by implemenitng new routines in your lifestyle. For instance, you can listen to your favorite music, running, reading a book, watching a movie, or eating your favorite meal =). And once he responds to your calls, make sure you ask him why he is been acting like, theres nothing wrong with saying how we feel =)!
December 1st, 2015 4:07pm
Talk to him about what you feel when he ignores you, try to understand what he is feeling too. Communication is important in for both of you to understand each other.
December 12th, 2015 3:41am
Ignore him right back. However long he ignores you is how long you should ignore him. If he doesn't care enough to talk to you why should you?
December 12th, 2015 11:53am
If you feel like you boyfriend isn't speaking to you, you can try asking him if he is okay, there may be something upsetting him and that may be the reason he isn't speaking.
December 12th, 2015 5:11pm
Everyone has their own way that they cope with stress, overwhelming emotions and changes that happen in their lives. When a loved one starts to behave differently the first thing that people assume is that it has something to do with them. In most situations when someone seems to be pulling away it is because they are dealing with an internal conflict. Other times it may have to do with something that someone has done to them. The best way to resolve an uncertainty about the sudden behavior changes of a loved one is to be supportive and non confrontational. Instead of assuming it has something to do with you, you can tell them that you are always there to listen and that you will always be there for them. Then with an open heart and complete honesty, directly ask them if you have done anything that has bothered or hurt them. Instead of ignoring how you are feeling or being afraid that you are the source of another person's behavior, it is always best to simply ask. This way you do not have to guess and you can be there, for the person you love, without starting to put up your own self-defensive walls, which may put more of a strain on your relationship. Remember the most important element in a relationship is communication.
December 12th, 2015 5:42pm
I think a good way to go about that is to talk to him. Open communication is key. Make sure you both know how the other feels, and figure out why he might be ignoring you.
December 13th, 2015 6:58am
Ask him what the problem is. Try to figure out if something happened or if you did something to cause him to be upset. Try not to get upset. Listen to what he has to say and what the problem.