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Whats the best way to stop thinking about someone you just broke up with?

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Last Updated: 03/31/2020 at 12:47am
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Top Rated Answers
Richard4427
March 28th, 2016 10:37am
It's not a matter of forgetting the relationship. It's that if you truly love someone, you want them to be happy. They're moving forward, and they're closer to happiness, and so are you. One day, you'll find the One. And it'll be worth the current trouble.
Eluna
March 31st, 2015 2:45pm
Do some busy work! Talk to friends or even just do the same old hobbies you love- keep your mind entirely busy to where you don't have time to think about them!
patientLily30
April 2nd, 2015 9:18pm
Speaking from personal experience I would say that the only thing that helped me was by socializing and meeting new people. The more new experiences I had the less time I spent thinking about my ex.
kindheartedSky78
April 12th, 2015 3:50pm
I think there is plenty you can do with this situation. Forms of distraction work best by spending time with friends who you enjoy being with, plan some exciting things to do to give yourself stuff to look forward to. Do something special for someone who is not expecting it.
compassionateturtle101
June 6th, 2015 8:12am
try to spend time learning more about yourself and do the things that make you happy. Use the negative energy of the breakup to do positive and creative things such as writing about how you feel or painting or cooking new things.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 3:40pm
Engage yourself In some useful activity. Might be some sports o listening to some cheerful music. Spending more time with your friends. Plan a road trip with your friends.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 12:03am
The best way to stop thinking about someone you just broke up with is to really focus on yourself. What do YOU want? What are your goals? I find that exercising, journaling, reading new books, and focusing on my connections with friends really helped me get through a break up. Taking up new activities can be fun and not only distracting, but enriching. Do you, as best you can.
BlueEcho316
July 14th, 2015 12:06am
Keep busy busy busy work, play, laugh,bike, swim love life even if the one you love isn't there. You were alive before them so continue to live. It will hurt but love yourself as well as loving them.
silverSound86
July 20th, 2015 11:52pm
By involving yourself in activities that are positive and involve your attention completely like photography, art, theatre, music, writing. When you do this, your art becomes a lot more stronger and it helps you tide over a very difficult phase in your life. You feel stronger and happier because you have chosen a positive self enhancing path over a negative self destructive path like alcolhol or something else to get over someone.
amazingGrace99
September 8th, 2015 4:45am
Focus on the feelings and sensations themselves, without regard to the thoughts. Make them an object of mindfulness and/or meditative focus whenever possible. This provides a cathartic practice which can be done without interrupting one's everyday life.
chanelellierhea5
October 29th, 2015 6:32pm
The best way to stop thinking about an ex partner is to distract yourself with things you love. Surround yourself with friends and family, participate in activities you enjoy, volunteer, go for a walk, whatever helps you to keep busy in a positive way.
blissfulCupcake
November 17th, 2015 10:18pm
you keep yourself busy, realise that your life was perfectly fine before this person entered your life so why can't it be like that now
Anonymous
March 1st, 2016 11:02am
The best way is to start thinking about yourself. Do do those things which would make yourself fall in love with yourself again.Those things which would repair your broken self respect and self esteem.
bubblyunicorn
August 1st, 2016 12:47am
busy yourself....hangout with friends, pursur hobbies, for a couple of days don't give yourself free time to think about it...after some time you should be fine..!
Greatlistener87
August 22nd, 2016 5:26am
Keep yourself occupied. Focus on you, what makes you happy maybe or your career or maybe even a life style change.
Melodie1
May 21st, 2018 9:01am
I would spend more time with family and friends or go running and boost my happy hormones, focus on work and study, plus I would avoid sad music or romantic films for a while till at least my love hormones are stabilised! Plus I would try to write down my sadness or anger and throw away. On the other hand, it is very crucial that I get a real closure! If the person doesn't want it, I would do it myself at least by writing it down or talking to an empty chair... for sure a moderator or a therapist could be a great help there.
Anonymous
October 1st, 2018 6:35am
Distract yourself with a lot of work/hobbies and friends. It is hard to stop thinking about them immediately, so be patient and you will be fine at the end. This is how human nature works. Life goes on even if your loved ones die, you get over it with time. And it's time that heals everything. If human nature wasn't like this, we would never be able to move forward in life. Time heals your pain and it is very important to always remember that nothing is permanent in life. Everything is fleeting. This may make you sad, but it's the reality. The sooner you accept it with open arms the less hard it will become. Every bad feeling will come to and end as much as every good feeling would. Embrace the present and make the most out of it.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2020 12:47am
Ice cream and YouTube, you're favorite flavor of icecream, this is what has helped me, avoid getting sucked into the breakup side of YouTube perhaps focus on all the positive videos on there. It's easy to look for sad songs that you can relate to but this is only gonna make you think about them, instead listen to upbeat songs if you have to listen to music. Or just watch your favourite youtube content creator whoever they may be. The best thing you can do to stop thinking about someone you just broke up with is to enjoy the things that you have on your own. Like Ice cream and youtube!