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Why do I and my girlfriend fight to where I hate her but when we're apart i miss her like crazy? Is this normal?

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Last Updated: 04/03/2019 at 10:42pm
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April 3rd, 2019 10:42pm
Even the hatred you feel after fighting with your girlfriend might be coming from genuinely caring about her, from a place of love. Because opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference. As long as your fights have some emotional impact on you, she has a place in your heart. And the fact that you miss her like crazy when the two of you are apart only confirms that. You care about her, so it’s completely normal to experience both of those emotions. However, if you do feel like you’re fighting more than you should be, or you’re seeing some toxicity in it, perhaps there’s something wrong and you should talk to her. Either way, communication is the way of solving relationship issues. Good luck 🤗
March 27th, 2019 5:30pm
Yes, it’s normal. Pain and loss they define us as much as love and pride. It’s like when you say you hate your mother when deep down inside you know that you love her really. You might be madly in love with her. Which is brilliant. It might hurt a lot, but it’s very natural to fight with your girlfriend and then miss her right after. You must love her so much. It’s beautiful to love someone, even if you do fight with her you do know that you love her since you miss her when she’s gone. I bet she’s fantastic.