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Why do i feel like so much anxiety when I'm off with my boyfriend and there are other women around. I feel like crying and i can't speak and just want to hide back to the apt? It's debilitating.

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Last Updated: 05/04/2021 at 12:30pm
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Anonymous
May 4th, 2021 12:30pm
I've been here before. It took me a while to figure out the reason behind it, but I eventually did. Keep in mind, we all are different; and what's my reason may vary from your reason but I'd be happy to help. I've always thought I wasn't good enough for my boyfriend, especially when other women were around. My self esteem would cripple; because I knew deep down that they were all more attractive than me, had a lot more body than me, and I thought that he'd think to himself how better they are than me in his head when he's see them. That was my low self esteem making itself known whenever we were in public and it hurt me so bad. I couldn't stand to be around them with him, because I just never felt good enough.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2018 1:56pm
So here are a whole bunch of questions to consider. :) What is it specifically about the women that intimidates you? Do you feel like this with all women, or just some? Do you feel this anxiety more with women you know, or women you don't know? Is it the way the women look or are acting, or the behavior of your boyfriend around these women, or both, or do you think this feeling you have comes from a place inside yourself? Is it the location that affects you? Do you have these feelings mostly in a bar, or in a park, in a restaurant, or on a bus? Mostly during the day or at night? Or is it a mixture of a lot of different things?