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Why do I hate it when my boyfriend likes girls pictures on social media. It can be a picture of a girl or anything a girl posts. Am I wrong and how can I change the way I feel?

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Last Updated: 04/28/2020 at 2:48pm
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empathicSunshine6869
April 28th, 2020 2:48pm
Jealousy is a normal human emotion. Jealousy will happen whether we want it to or not, you're not bad or wrong for feeling jealous when your boyfriend likes posts by other girls. What matters is how we act in response to those feelings; am I going to engage with this emotion in a contructive way, or a potentially destructive way? One "constructive" way of engaging with jealousy is to take a moment to ask ourselves "why am I feeling jealous in this moment?"; take the opportunity to reflect on any thoughts that could be driving that emotion. What does the act of liking another girl's post represent in your mind? Are you thinking of a worst-case scenario and could that be driving the emotion you're feeling?
Anonymous
January 15th, 2019 10:00am
You are never wrong about how you feel, but it is important to know why. My guess is, with the limited information I have, that your insecurity might be due to a lack of confidence on your relationship. Try to talk things out, maybe he is just fascinated with a girl's beauty in general, but what it is really important is to know that he loves you. Make sure to listen to him, and understand how he feels. Try to keep in mind that men have a certain drive that sometimes is difficult to control from them and hard to understand for women. Good luck.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2019 12:58am
What was the intention behind him liking the person's post? It is not a crime to be friendly, however, if he is being overtly flirtful that is something that would be a good idea to address. You could try asking if he would be willing to chat about some of your insecurities. If he is willing you start off listing what is going well, state what causes you to feel jealous, and ask if there is any way that you can improve. This gives you power over the only thing you can control; yourself. You could also ask for something at this point. Leave it on a positive note letting him know what he is doing well in the relationship.
miraculousBerry7577
April 20th, 2020 3:03pm
Hi there! I can totally relate as it has happened to me before! I believe what we're feeling is jealously mixed with insecurity. It isn't wrong to feel this way and it's totally normal! I believe that you should talk to your boyfriend about it, and seek a compromise from both sides. Remember, the person he is dating is you. It is however, unhealthy to keep feeling this way, so it is also wise to not let the negative feelings bother you and affect you and your relationship. Hope everything works out for you! The listeners at 7 cups will always be happy to help.