Why do people have such negative feelings about long-distance relationships between two people who have met on the internet?

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Heavensent
December 21st, 2016 8:00pm
This question was speaking to me. From my experience persons always say bad things about online long distance relationships. Even when you have a chat with somebody about your relationship problems and then they find out that its online and long distance, its like their mood changes. They just see the bad outcomes or the flaws or the hitches or the glitches. Its just what is there. Its just the truth. Thats how peop[e react when you tell them this. Thats just what i observed myself. For me there are a lot of benefits and advantages of connecting with a person on a spiritual and emotional level because that is basically what an online long distance relationship does. Its connects the two persons better than a physical interaction. The truth that they are a lot of dangers and catfishing and scamming and so many people out there who will pretend to be somebody that they are not. And the bad experiences always surface more than the good experiences that people have had with online dating. Personally I love it and i would encourage anybody to try. Just to have your personal opinion on the matter and not what someone else thinks. :)
speckle
December 8th, 2016 1:12pm
Some say that a long-distance relationship increases the risk of jealousy and such emotions like it. Although, some research has proved that long-distance relationships aren't always doomed. Studies show that LDR have just find just as much satisfaction in their relationship (intimacy, trust, etc.) than any other couple. The best thing you can do is ignore what anyone has to say about you and go on being happy with your partner, near or far.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2017 3:21am
I'm in a LDR! I met him through an online friend of mine who I've known for around a year. I've never been happier. Sure I miss him, who wouldn't? I think about him 24/7. We plan on meeting soon. I don't know what's so bad. Maybe Bc of all the online crooks. I know he isn't one though. I know for a fact :) He's amazing
Anonymous
May 24th, 2017 1:50pm
Because some say that long-distance relationship is unable to be trusted. You never met that person or know what he is like in society. It as well increases the risk of insecurity, you never know if he/she may fall for the other person and you may start feeling worried. But I have personally been in a long distance relationship, everything worked out for me, but he couldn't handle the distance which really killed him, we broke up while loving each other but wanting ourselves to be happy. Don't be scared to get into a long-distance relationship, it's a good experience that may actually learn a lot from.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2016 3:22am
Because the majority of these "relationships" are just fantasy at play and people end up getting hurt. We just don't want to see you get hurt. Meeting online is ok, but it has to be brought to real life in a reasonable amount of time (ie less than a month), or it just becomes a a big fantasy in the human mind whether you realize it or not. Again, we just don't want to see you hurt.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2017 7:49pm
Maybe its because the internet is not safe. It is not about the people is about the two who start the relationship. Maybe the real date must come after all background checks and when there is confidence that it is safe. Not all internet users are bad crooks, some they are just genuine users try a different way to locate their other half. He/She might be sitting on the other side of the Ocean
JustAnotherPersonOn7Cups
September 19th, 2017 8:19am
People tend to be more comfortable with what they are used to. With the internet now allowing individuals to create and establish intimate relationships with people who would other wise be considered a world away, this leaves people at unease. It is important to question what gives value to the relationship and what emotional needs does the relationship fill? Connection, communication, and stability through a virtual relationship can equally be as rewarding as a relationship with an individual in what would be considered "real life".
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2016 2:53pm
Perhaps they feel the other person can be deceiving you and they only want whats best for you. They want to make sure the person on the other end is who they say they are. If they met them and saw they were real and a good person, I think they would feel differently about the situation.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2017 12:51am
People tend to feel this way because they expect the relationship to fail. They feel that since the people met online and have likely never met, they don't have that deep of a connection. Hence, they feel that it will fail because there isn't anything to hold it together.
LovingSunrise55
July 18th, 2017 9:29am
Because these people who have negative emotions about these things are not aware and not open about the modern way of love and relationships.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2017 3:38am
I was in a LDR that started and semi-stayed online, and it eventually failed due to some factors (that's another story to be told). I had a lot negative feedbacks about it from my family, and very minimal support from my friends about it. I would say that the old school generation and/or the more conservative minds are not very receptive and/or understanding to the idea of being able to build strong emotional bonds without physically seeing and being with the person in front of them. As other members have answered, it can also be the fear of being catfished, stories of bad experiences, etc. But just out of personal experience, it was out of their own fear and lack of understanding/willing to understand.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2018 2:20pm
Because lies can easily be told off of the internet. They can make themselves sound better from what they are really.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2018 6:29pm
Long distance relationships are a great opportunity for a couple to take it slow and spend time focusing on discovering how compatible they really are. This means they can explore if they have a common vision of life, whether they have similar values and expectations, and it also helps them avoid making relationship decisions based on chemistry and physical attraction alone. It is also very helpful to develop great communication skills and avoid making assumptions. The distance needs to be filled with words and questions, and it provides a different context for love that can be very beneficial to the couple developing a very different sense of intimacy vs when they spend every moment together being blinded by physical attraction.