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Is it normal to suddenly become very self aware when someone compliments your appearance?

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Last Updated: 10/13/2020 at 12:07pm
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February 18th, 2015 4:11am
Yes, because by them drawing attention to a good part of your appearance you brings along awareness of EVERY part of your appearance. Therefore, you become hyper aware of the things you personally don't like about yourself.
February 18th, 2015 6:28am
It is, because sometimes we don't really notice our features and how we look and what we are like until someone points it out for us.
April 3rd, 2015 5:36am
I think it's a natural response; it makes sense that our first thought might be 'what about X made them think I look good?' which would naturally cause one to become more self aware in moments such as these.
May 3rd, 2015 5:42am
Yes it is normal. They are bringing your attention to how you look. There's nothing else I can say on this.
June 9th, 2015 3:23am
Of course! For the most part of our day, we tend to just go with the flow and think more about what's happening in front of our eyes with what we can see versus what we can't, such as our physical appearance. Once someone compliments us, we're suddenly reminded of the fact that 'hey! I'm actually a human being!', which then leads to you imagining what you currently look like, which then leads to self-conciousness.
November 6th, 2015 7:34am
That is normal yes, when someone talks about you in anyway you will become more self aware this is because that is how your brain functions.
November 9th, 2015 6:09pm
Absolutely! I'd become very self-aware, and wonder what caused them to give me attention, and try to change it, usually quickly. I've had enough attention. It usually just causes me to feel fear. It's not ideal, perhaps. I'm trying to change that.
February 23rd, 2016 1:48am
Well, it's certainly not abnormal. I can only speak for myself, but when you hear something- you think about it. It's simple and reflexive. However, anything in extreme amounts should be approached with caution. So if you're extremely self-aware, perhaps you should examine or look for the cause why?
June 2nd, 2016 4:16pm
Yes it is normal. I think most people suddenly become hyper-aware of their appearance if somebody were to compliment them. It's a natural reaction.
July 18th, 2016 12:27pm
When someone compliments on your appearance the focus of the conversation suddely lies on you so i think it's totally normal.
September 19th, 2016 2:37pm
Definitely. Something you were not aware of is made known when someone compliments you and suddenly you're thinking about it. That's a perfectly normal reaction.
July 18th, 2017 2:58pm
I think so. I think we tend to forget to remind ourselves that we are beautiful, so when someone else does it, it bring us back into focus and a viewpoint of self love.
June 19th, 2018 10:55am
Yes definitely! The compliment brings our attention to the detail/details they complimented us on and we can become hyper aware! It’s completely normal
July 24th, 2018 5:34pm
It is normal to become self aware when you get a complement, it happens all the time. You just have to remember, that at the end of the day, you're perfect in your own way.
January 13th, 2020 3:19am
It is normal. In the meantime you may also be aware of the fact that you pay more attention to what others think of your appearance. It is more like others' opinion makes you realize what you look like. Compliments make you feel in a certain way. My question is, "How are you feeling about it?" You look in a certain way. That is it. Others' perception of your is outside of you. When they give you the good feedback, you react in a certain way. Now you are wondering whether it is normal. It is a way to solicit validation from a person who has never meet you.
October 13th, 2020 12:07pm
Based on my personal experience, I would say yes. Because generally people compliment you on what they like and not necessarily something you like. Also, for many people, they don't compliment something unless it really strikes them. Which means you may probably not have thought that the scarf you put on hurriedly in the morning because it was by the coat rack would be something that someone else would love to the point of complimenting. So the compliment makes you more aware of something you were oblivious to, hence why you would become self aware.