People (including friends and family) have started to make fun of my insecurities. My grandma compares my nose to a strawberry and my teeth because they have little gaps. What do I do?
Last Updated: 09/21/2021 at 7:46pm
Monique Bivins, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
I have a real passion for helping my clients to overcome life's obstacles . My work with clients is nonjudgmental, supportive, and interactive.
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Have you told them it bothers you? Physical appearances aren't worth as much as what's on the inside. For you to blossom as a beautiful individual, you first have to accept all your insecurities and imperfections because we all have them, and start looking at the brighter side of things.
While family messing with us can be funny sometimes, it can also hurt. Rather than saying something rude back, try letting them know that what they are saying hurts you. Unfortunately, not all people are blessed with a family able to be that open with each other. Another way is to laugh it off or show them that what they said doesn't hurt you. Of course this isn't the best approach to take, if it is the only way to get around this problem it could work. Hopefully this can help you in some way, shape, or form. Keep your head up! :)
The first thing to do is to self analyze how much you value their opinions and feedback. If they use hurtful words or attacks toward you, then it may be safe to just not value their opinions at all. Constructive criticism is needed to ensure we grow as humans (professionally or in life) but hurtful and mean comments are nowhere near important and you should not let them define who you are. no one is perfect, therefore you should not tolerate people picking on your insecurities. distance and blocking these comments is probably another approach to this. but it really depends on how close these people are to you. I wish you the best of luck on this! and remember, you are unique! love yourself first and don't let others define you.
In situations like these I could not stress enough that communication is key. Do your family and friends know that these comments are having a negative effect on you? Or do you laugh it off as a joke and bury your feelings. You don't need to be aggressive in your response nor should you be passive. But assertively communicating your feelings. Be honest and respectful and you can expect the same in return. A bit of addictial advice would be to speak to these people one on one. People tend to be much more honest when they are in a one on one situation. They can't fall into the phenomena of "group think". Try speaking to them when they are comfortable, with free time and are able to speak uninterrupted.
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