When will I accept myself for being who I am?
Last Updated: 01/17/2022 at 2:49am
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Acceptance is the most beautiful thing one can ever achieve. But it also the hardest. Acceptance is the capacity to unreservedly appreciate all elements of yourself. That means you recognize every bit of yourself. To love the good parts of yourself, and look at everything else as something that is equally lovable but still has room for improvement. Acceptance comes in SO many different ways. It can look like liking an outfit you put together, it can look like drinking water when you're thirsty. It can also look like loving the person in the mirror. To accept who you are as a whole, it's good to appreciate the smaller, seemingly nonsignificant things. Accept smaller truths about yourself. Make yourself a priority!
When you start putting effort into accepting yourself for who you are. Of course, it's not quite that simple. I struggle with this a lot, often wishing there was something--anything--I could do to wake up as someone better than me. I actively try to do things that will help me accept myself as I am, but these take time, effort, and practice, and while I have made progress, I still have a long way to go. The best thing to do is identify and challenge problematic thought patterns. Do you think: Why am I such a loser (of course, that's only an example)? You are not a loser; you perceive yourself to be a loser. You can challenge your perceptions of being a loser by coming up with positive alternative thoughts or trying to identify the flawed thinking that causes you to call yourself a loser. From there, you develop a more healthy perception of yourself (and learn to like yourself, which, I am assuming, is part of your definition of accepting yourself). So there is no set time of when you'll accept yourself. But with work and patience, you'll get there.
Now that is a hard question. When and how? To be honest, and not trying to sound like some cheesy grue here, it depends on you. Honestly as human beings we worry so much about the future and what others think of us. But if you just took a breather and stopped we will realize that for true freedom we need to focus on how we feel. You will finally accept yourself when you stop trying to force it or push it away. In order to truly be who you are you need to just be. Let go of you worries and just live in the moment.
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