Why do I always feel fake?
Last Updated: 02/19/2016 at 7:41pm
Michael Hofrath, Ph.D. Candidate
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Feelings fake, this is a harsh judgement, a harsh self-reflection, but it sometimes is normal, and okay to feel. The important thing to remember is that you are entitled to feel as you do, to express this notion, the emotion, this confusion; in reality, you are unique and powerful, you are capable of anything and everything you set your mind to, you are able to change this feeling into one that is of pride and confidence, contentment and beauty. Feeling "fake" may result from trying to manage so many overwhelming, confusing, troubling emotions at once; feeling "fake" may result from putting on a face, a smile, a disposition which others find amusing, comforting, etc. Its your job to express these emotions, to fight through struggles, to pursue the journey in overcoming such troubling feelings; you must be the person who you want to be, OWN YOURSELF. Don't try to appease others by hiding your true colors, your true identity; be strong and confident in your personality, you quirks, your unique-ness. Stand tall in the face of such adversities and never feel ashamed of sharing, of expressing, your deepest concerns, deepest emotions, deepest feelings; doing so is relieving and healing, all of which every human being needs in order to survive. Hence, feeling "fake" is not something to regret or feel bothered by in that it can be relieved, revised, re-organized, and completely overcome with the right actions, and the right amount of honesty--the right amount of time. Be true to yourself, be the person you want to be, be confident in you.
In my opinion I feel like this is due to our views of society and how we are suppose to be. We act certain ways to have the approval of others. Sometimes that feels fake because we are not who we really are inside.
Maybe you feel like you're not being true to yourself in order to please others. Try to reflect about your motivations, what makes you say what you say, do what you do, and ask youtself if that's what you really think/want.
Honestly, you might feel fake because you are trying to be someone you're not. Ultimately, you need to remember to do what makes YOU happy. All that matters in the end is how you see you and how you love yourself. Be choosy who you let influence you, because you know who you want to be and you deserve to be the person you can be.
We worried about keeping up, regularly questioned our intelligence and abilities and felt insecure all-around. Apparently, what we were experiencing is known as the “impostor phenomenon.” In the 1970s, professors Pauline Rose Clance, Ph.D, and Suzanne Imes, Ph.D, coined the term. Clance first noticed this phenomenon with her students. She saw that despite being smart and accomplished students, they still felt unsure of themselves. But if you are having trouble with impostor feelings, what can you do? These are several of my fave tips from gradPSYCH. (See here for the full list.) Be patient. Most people feel like impostors when they take on new responsibilities. Just because you feel underqualified today doesn’t mean you’ll always feel that way, says Leila Durr, PhD. Accepting your feelings–without dwelling on them–can rob them of their power, she notes. Acknowledge positive feedback. Too often, says Pauline Rose Clance, PhD, people who feel like impostors don’t absorb compliments. She suggests keeping a praise notebook. Gail Matthews, PhD, recommends asking people to be more specific in their accolades. Fight compulsive work habits. Many people who experience impostor feelings develop “magic” rituals that help them study for tests and feel prepared. Experiment with what it would be like to take a test without having pulled an all-nighter, for example.
Feeling of fakeness comes when one is always tending to put up his/her that face which actually is superficial. To avoid such a feeling always be 'truthful' and 'natural'. Lead a simple, healthy and happy life. :-):-):-)
This may be because your perception of what is real may be warped. Maybe you're not the one who is fake, but the others are. Or maybe you feel that you're holding back and not presenting yourself honestly. This may be due to pressures or the expectations of others which make you hold up a false reputation.
Why do you feel so much . its a platform to share your feelings , not to judge feelings :P
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