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Am I a bad person for self harming?

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Last Updated: 09/11/2018 at 6:34pm
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Top Rated Answers
Mikayla1000
November 3rd, 2014 2:36am
No, you are not! Self-harm is a way to cope, and although it's not the best way to cope, you're NOT a bad person. Here at 7cups, we want to help and support you, please request a chat and we'd be happy to talk with you :)
Suvarna
September 14th, 2014 12:47pm
Not at all. A good/bad person does not depend on this at all. One self harms because they are angry, frustrated or sad about something. You don't self harm because you are a bad person. You are a good person and you must absolutely believe that.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2014 3:37pm
No, Most people have gone through self harm in there life. You are not a bad person, you just need a little healing :)
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2015 6:09pm
Never a bad person. Never never never never never ever a bad person. I myself dont think im a bad person because I self-harm.
Abigailrose6899
September 11th, 2014 12:31am
No! you are not a bad person for self harming. You are probably going through more than what you can handle. and feel that self harm is a way to deal with it, while there are much better ways of expressing your emotions, you are not a bad person for that at all.
TropicalSeas91
November 15th, 2014 10:21am
No you are not a bad person, you are a regular person like everyone else who happens to be going through some stuff and using self harm as a coping mechanism. That said, self-harm can be dangerous and it might be beneficial to find alternative means of coping.
musicalDreamer71
November 3rd, 2014 1:00am
No, of course not. Everyone goes through tough times, but it's important that you try to replace self-harm with healthy habits.
Nazlii
September 28th, 2014 7:28pm
Everybody makes mistakes.Everybody did something that they're not proud of. The important thing is realize that this is wrong :)
breadplane
November 4th, 2014 4:54pm
Self-harming does NOT make you a bad person. It's just a way of dealing with negative emotions and situations. However, there are lots of ways to handle these feelings and situations that are much safer and healthier.
ToNeverland
November 5th, 2014 2:35am
You are not a bad person for the ways that you try to kill your sadness. We all cope inout own ways, some turn to drugs, some to alcohol and some to taking it out on themselves. The most important thing is that we all try our best to rehabilitate our minds and bodies.
ThePoet
November 20th, 2014 11:28am
No. You are hurting for one reason or another. That being said, it is a bad thing that you do this. You should not need to self-harm to feel "alive" or better. The act of self-harm is bad, but you are not a bad person for falling into this bad habit.
Pandette
November 19th, 2014 1:32am
Please, never think of yourself as a bad person for self-harming. You are experiencing some sort of emotional pain and this is the method you are using to stop the emotional and psychological pain. I would recommend speaking to someone to find out better methods of trying to heal or to figure out why you began to self-harm in the first place. I know it may be difficult now, but things do get better and easier. Ps, I was an avid self-harmer as well.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2014 7:45pm
You are not a bad person. Self-harm shows the strength and struggle of a person at a rough time in our lives. I have self-harmed before, and i am not embarrassed. It masked the pain I was going through, but instead of self-harm, I found something that distracted me, like singing, or reading, or doodling. Just something i could do, instead of hurting myself.
Angieeeee
September 29th, 2014 4:10am
No, of course you are not bad for self-harming. Self-harming doesn't mean that you are bad. It is just your way of expressing your sadness / agony / fear / hatred. However, self-harming is really not good for yourself, so try to divert your attention from self-harming to other stuff when you feel like self-harming.It is an addiction. Take care of yourself!
IllBeYourFriend
October 11th, 2014 8:06pm
No you are not, i've self harmed, it has nothing to do with who you are, but with your feelings. And it will get better.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2018 10:22pm
No self harm is a coping mechanism it may be unhealthy but it doesn't make you a bad person no matter what people say
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 6:42pm
No, you are not a bad person for self harming! You are probably going though a hard trial and using self harm as a way to cope.
Oceanlove
July 7th, 2015 11:17pm
No way. It doesn't make you a bad person, you're not harming anyone else but yourself. You're worth more than that though. You don't deserve to be hurt. I know that the feeling of pain can help deal with pain from other sources, but it's not a great thing to do. Your body is the thing that you rely on the most, it supports you, and gives you life. Try to talk to someone about it, someone who can support you
Anonymous
August 24th, 2015 9:15am
No you are not a bad person for self harming. You just have to put your head up and keep moving foward with your life.
Anonymous
September 14th, 2015 5:25pm
No. Not at all. As an outsider looking in your self harming has no effect on you as a person. It's your life what happens happens and that's okay.
Eloquentgraffiti10
September 22nd, 2015 4:10pm
Self harming doesn't make you a bad person. It just means you are hurting emotionally. I highly suggest you call the suicide hotline or go to a hospital. You are worth it!
thegirlthatknowshowyoufeel15
November 26th, 2015 9:07pm
NO you are not a bad person for doing self harm. It's just a way to cope to some people and it's a bad way to cope with whatever you're going through. Here at 7 cups of tea we have trained listeners willing to listen to you about what's going on in your life that turned you toward self harm.
gentleDreamer72
December 29th, 2015 3:22pm
Not at all. Self-harm means that you're in a lot of psychological pain. It does not mean that you're selfish or bad. You deserve compassion and care, not judgment.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2016 4:34am
No, you are certainly not a bad person for self harming. There are many self harmers who pursuit life in happiness for others even if they can't prove it for themselves. This is because many of us self harmers would never want someone to talk a walk in our shoes.
BunnySQUEAK
September 11th, 2018 5:15pm
No! Please never think that! Maybe it isn’t the nicest form of relief, but if it works for you and you are seeking help and know your limits it’s okay. Remember to seek help, you are not alone! Please please please remember that! I know that some times it can be rather scary to seek help but trust me it is so so so so so sooooo worth it! Some times there may be a ever so long wait for help, be this at a local docotors or on the phone. But it is always worth it. Remember you can always google your local help numbers. Stay strong.
Andrew1137
February 27th, 2017 1:15am
Self harming does not make somebody a bad person. Self harm is a habit that some people pick up as a coping mechanism and from personal experience, I know it is very hard to stop. It provides a temporary but immediate relief and it can be tempting to continue. It however is not a good habit to have as it can make a person feel worse in the long run and it is damaging. I would absolutely suggest that you seek out help to stop doing it and maybe even research some safe alternative coping methods on your own. Depending on what triggers it, various busy-work activities tended to help me when I had a big problem with it. I hope you find the road to recovery.
peacefulMusic8
May 30th, 2016 2:08am
No. It is simply you trying to cope in one way, even if people do not understand. Whether you think you are a bad person yourself for hurting yourself, you aren't. If you believe you are a bad person because other people tell you are because you do it, there is no excuse for them. You are simply just trying in a way they don't understand.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2016 11:13am
No, you're just someone who wants help. :) There are professionals out there who can help you and we're here to listen.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2016 8:41pm
No, you're not a bad person. You're just not being good with yourself. You always deserve to take care and love yourself no matter what you've been trough you will always have yourself so take care
betho
August 22nd, 2016 1:31am
Not at all, self harm is a manipulative addiction which can happen to anyone good or bad regardless of their character