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Anonymous
April 17th, 2018 4:38pm
nope you are just being cruel to urself . U are such a beautiful person just going through a bad phase but all u gotta do is hang in there and have faith. Things always dont work out the way we want but tht's not the end my frnd :)
all the best for life
and nxt time u think of harming urself just take a min and think about those pple who gave birth to u and looked after u i am sure u;ll stop :)
No, you are most certainly NOT a bad person for self harming. Self harming is a coping mechanism. It may not be the best or most safe mechanism, but it is a way of dealing with overwhelming emotions. Here at 7 cups we are here to help and guide you as best as we can through these hard times where you have the urge to self harm. It can be very dangerous and we want to help you in the best way possible and listen to how you feel about everything. You dont have to go through it alone .
You are not a bad person!It's just that self harming is wrong but it's not your fault that you harm yourself.Please try to find out a safe and positive alternative to this.And remember that it's not your mistake!
No, it doesnt make you a bad person. I understand you do it as a release or as a way to cope. I understand that you have a reason for doing what you do and that can be difficult to grasp for someone who has never been in your shoes.
It does make me sad that people self-harm but its not my place to judge, I hope you are trying to find another way and getting help where you can, because as a person you deserve as much respect, kindness and love as anyone else, so I hope you will be the first person to give that to yourself each day.
No, I am not but that does not mean it is not bad. Self harming is a way to express my emotion when everything is a blur and I cannot relax but knowing I should not makes it harder.
No, not at all. It's just your way to take the pain away, everyone has different ways to do that, you know? I'm not saying it's okay for you to do it but you are not a bad person for that either.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2014 6:58pm
no, you are not a bad person for self harming! you are just hurt and probably depressed. Self harm is an unhealthy way to cope with the stress. It is definitely wrong but it doesn't make you a bad person!
You, yourself are not a bad person. You are just a little lost and confused like everyone else in the world. Try on finding different ways of coping with your pain, like writing or drawing artwork pieces to ease your discomfort. You are a beautiful person :-)
Thats something you must answer no person knows why you did it and no person can feel the pain you inflicted so the only person with the answer is you
no you are not a bad person, but you can possibly change and stop harming yourself, by adoring yourself
Self-harming has nothing to do with what kind of person you are. It only means that you do not know how to cope with your emotions. That is a very normal thing that many people experience, but many cope in different ways. Self-harming is similar to abusing drugs or alcohol: it is a way to detach yourself from your reality and your feelings. However, self-harm can become more and more pronounced, so it is important to find professional help and learn healthier ways to cope with your emotions.
Not at all, but please seek help so you don't feel the need to hurt yourself any longer and be happy.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2014 11:38am
Absolutely not. Self-harm doesn't change what kind of a person you are. In my experience, I have found that people who self-harm think there isn't any other alternative. That's it. You are definitely not a bad person.
It depends on the mood and time. Sometimes you understand the fact that i is not totally your fault and sometimes you blame yourself.
no, you're not a bad person for self harming. I can understand it feels like that maybe, but you really don't.
You are absolutely not a bad person for self harming. Your coping techniques do not reflect your self-worth. Feeling guilt for self harming does, however, show you are aware there are better coping techniques that are more positive and healthy.
No. Self-harming is not a choice that you make so you're not a bad person. You can lessen or stop self-harming if you want though. But don't think that you're a bad person. Good day and I hope you'll stop self-harming
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 5:07pm
Absolutely not. Self harming is a coping mechanism; using an unhealthy coping mechanism doesn't make you an inherently bad person- in fact, willingness to try and stay clean and treat yourself better is a really good thing.
Absolutely not. Self-harm is a way of copping with life's problems. It's not a very good way, and shouldn't be done, but that doesn't make you a bad person.
No. Of course you are not a bad person. Al self harm is is a way of coping. As a young person you didn't learn healthy coping strategies for whatever reason so you turned to self harm. That doesn't make you a bad person.
No not at all, people cope with things in many different ways from self harm, drinking too much to self medicating. No one is a bad person for self harming.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2015 3:16pm
No you are not! You are still the beautiful and good person you were before. But, you should not try to harm yourself. You are truly amazing, and you are strong.
No. No you are not. Regardless of why you self harm - to feel things, to stop feeling things to show people your pain, to show yourself your pain, to punish yourself.... why ever you harm - it does NOT make you a bad person. We harm when we don't know what else to do; when it seems nothing else is working. I hope you can eventually learn other ways to cope so that, someday, you no longer need to hurt yourself, but you are NOT a bad person for doing this or feeling this way. We do what we need to to get through what we struggle with. I'm sorry you're struggling so much - but our maladaptive coping methods do not make us bad people. Hang in there friend. I hope you find all the support you need.
No you're not. Def not. If someone ever tells you that you're bad person, punch them. (im sorry but its true)
Self harm does not make you bad, it doesn't make you anything other than someone trying to cope with what they have going on.
Absolutely not. You're not a bad person, just a person in a bad situation. Most people dealing with the worse situations in life would probably resort to that. And that is why how to deal with these cases is to actually fix the situation you're into. This might save yourself from doing self-harm.
No! Absolutely not. You are a person who is in pain and has found a way of coping with that pain, but it is an unhealthy and toxic way to cope with pain and it doesn't make the pain go away, the pain always comes back.
Of course not. Everybody copes differently. You just have to find a more peaceful way to deal with whats happening in your life so you wont want to harm yourself..
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