Am I doing this for attention?
Last Updated: 02/22/2018 at 3:01am
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Probably not, its not easy to fake the mindset and symptoms of a mental illness or disorder. If you think you might be doing it for attention, its likely you are not. Most people who do things for attention don't have the shame of thinking that they are doing for attention. Makes sense?
Some people do self harm for attention BUT please know that there is 100% nothing wrong with needing attention.
It really depends what you feel you are doing something for. If you feel you are asking for help or telling people your problems, then that's exactly what you're doing. If you are doing it on purpose just to get attention, then yes. But I guarantee you 95% of the people who tell someone else something that personal, that sensitive, it is NOT for attention. It's a cry for help that needs to be treated with respect and seriousness.
Maybe it's a cry for help, yeah. But maybe you do it for yourself to cope with other things. I'm not sure what this is about exactly, but I will try to help you as good as I can. Sometimes we engage in behavior to let other people know we need support, and are having a hard time. Take, for example, if I didn't receive an invitation to my best friend's wedding, I will give her hints and talk to her about it without directly mentioning it. This is simply a small cry for help, or cry for an invitation in this case. Same goes with things like self harm or posting at social media. But more complicated. Some people self harm because it's their coping mechanism, or various other reasons. And others do it in the hopes of someone noticing, and helping them. That is in the literal sense for attention, but I think that has a really bad name. It's more a "I tried everything, I really want help, but I can't to reach out". To non-self harmers it seems a little... Excessive to turn to harming yourself, but sometimes it's the only option someone sees. Whether you are engaging in behavior for attention or simply to cope, is up to you. No one can answer that for you. But doing something for 'attention' is not always as pathetic as it sounds.
No most likely not, unless you are parading around showing every person you see, itll be a no.
No you are not doing this for attention, you just need support and hopefully I can help with that. You are trying to reach out thats all.
No, it's only for you to pay attention to yourself! :)
What is it that you're doing, exactly? Self harm or anything like that is never, never, never for attention. It's a mental illness and those things are not something to seek attention with.
Only you can honestly answer that question but in my experience it is a common misconception. Coping mechanisms albeit unhealthy ones such as self harm are just ways of coping and survivng and not elaborate ploys for attention
A lot of people do things for attention unintentionally. They just want to be noticed. Others are very serious when they say they have an issue
A very vague question, friend. First ask yourself what are you doing exactly. Then ask yourself "is it necessary?" You will soon arrive at your answer.
It's hard to answer that question, It depends on whether or not you feel ignored by others and it could also just be a part of your personality to want to do things to get attention. But wanting attention stems from a feeling of being ignored
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