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Does self harming make me unimportant?

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Last Updated: 03/17/2020 at 9:39pm
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Top Rated Answers
August 11th, 2015 7:13pm
ABSOLUTELY NOT! Don't ever, EVER think that because you have fallen into self harm that you are unimportant in the slightest. Easier said than done. Regardless, you are still a person, and you have feelings. You can still feel, and love, and cry. You are no less important than anyone else around you.
July 14th, 2015 5:11am
No, self-harm does not make you unimportant. You are a very important human being, and self-harming does not make you worth any less than someone who doesn't self-harm.
June 18th, 2015 6:16am
I think there are millions of things that make you important. A quote from doctor who "You know that in nine hundred years of time and space and I've never met anybody who wasn't important..." I think that means a lot, because I may not be nine hundred years old, but in the time I have been alive, I have never met an unimportant person.
January 26th, 2016 12:49am
Absolutely not. Self-harming makes you a self-harmer, nothing else. You are not less of a person for doing so. Self-harmers have reasons for what they do and even though it is not healthy, it does not make you unimportant.
March 1st, 2016 8:33pm
The Doctor once said, "You know that in nine hundred years of time and space and I've never met anybody who wasn't important." I'm not sure if words from a fictional character can aid you in this time of self-doubt, but they helped me a lot. Self-harm is a symptom, a sign of the intense pain trapped inside of us, and when we harm ourselves we're seeking relief from those emotions. We want a release. I believe that every human being deserves a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen. We are all deserving of respect and kindness. All of us are equal in importance. You matter. You are important to the world and, although you do not know who I am, to me.
April 9th, 2015 2:24pm
June 9th, 2015 1:48am
Not at all. You are just as important as anyone else who has ever lived. Don't underestimate yourself, you're wonderful.
June 13th, 2015 12:47pm
No, it does not make you unimportant at all! Everyone is very important! Self harming is only a coping skill to deal with the pain, even though it is not a positive one (:
June 22nd, 2015 6:45am
No, self harm does not make you unimportant. Self harm is not a great thing, but you're still valued and you're still worth everything.
July 7th, 2015 3:34pm
No it doesn't. Its just my way of fighting the demons that I'm struggling with. Its because I don't have friends and I'm sick of keeping everything I side. Self harm is the way of taking out my frustrations.
December 14th, 2015 4:05am
Not one bit. I feel as if all of our battles, even though sometimes unique, are very important at all times.
January 5th, 2016 11:45pm
No! Self harming does not make you unimportant. Everyone is important, regardless what they do/have done.
February 1st, 2016 9:54pm
No no no not at all! Self harm does not make you unimportant-- It just means you need help from a trust worthy adult so you don't hurt your self anymore
February 8th, 2016 6:55pm
No! Self harming is symptom of other psycho issues! Every people by it self is important! You should find where you are succesfull or what makes you feel important!
May 31st, 2016 5:41pm
Of course not there is no reason out there especially self harm that will make you unimportant. Nobody in this world is unimportant god put us on this earth for a reason and that being said everyone on this earth is VERY important. Don't ever think you are unimportant even when times like now are hard. Your family and friends will never think you are unimportant even if you think you are right now. Everything will get better.
June 3rd, 2016 6:58am
Self harm does not make you unimportant. If anything, it makes you more important. Everyone deserves certain love, kindness, respect, and compassion. Self harm just means that you have been deprived of those types of rights and you are tired of it.
July 12th, 2016 4:27pm
In no way does self-harming make you unimportant. Despite anything you may do you are always an important, lovable individual in this world. I urge you to reach out for professional help or to call a hotline is you are self harming. But please don't ever feel like self-harming invalidates you. You are a brave individual and you are just as important as everyone else.
July 26th, 2016 12:36am
Absolutely not! Self harming is a mechanism when what you feel is too much for you to bare. Self harming happens when people don't know what to do with their emotions or just bored as well. Today, I had a relapse of self harm for the first time in over 2 weeks. The reason I mention that is because I want you to know that you're not alone. Self harming does NOT make you unimportant; if anything, it makes you more important. (*hugs*) I'm so sorry that you had to result to self harm, and if you want, all you have to do is send me a personal request @alexisheretohelpyou2 I know I might not get back to you immidately, but you won't be ignored, and I'll get to you as soon as I can! I'm sorry, and I can only imagine what you're going through, but you are not unimportant, you are strong, and very important. -Alex
August 16th, 2016 11:07pm
No its always important. Its saying there is a problem and that's how you are coping. Its not the healthiest way to cope. Start therapy and find different ways to cope
October 18th, 2016 9:13pm
No! Nothing would ever make anyone unimportant. Everyone matters and always will. To self harm is to feel that you don't matter to yourself or anyone else, or to want to mean more than what you do now. "Unimportant" is not a word that should ever be used to describe a human being, especially after they've self harmed.
December 5th, 2017 3:28am
no. but when you hurt yourself, it means you treat yourself as if you are unimportant but in reality, you are not, nobody is.
February 13th, 2018 10:21am
No, but you are important in your very own way :) Please, don't harm yourself, it'll only bring sorrow! Be happy with who you are, and don't let people bring you down, you're special and you matter.
February 22nd, 2018 3:00am
Self harm is simply just a coping skill, it doesn't make you unimportant. You are important no matter what you are going through
April 24th, 2018 4:27pm
No definitely not, self harm is a coping mechanism and that does not make you any less important than anyone else
August 12th, 2019 8:07pm
Not at all! your worth is not defined by self-harm. Self-harm is a sign that you're in a lot of pain, and pain doesn't make you unimportant. You deserve love, help, and support, and I encourage you to seek it out as soon as you can. But for now, don't forget that you are valid and you are important.
March 17th, 2020 9:39pm
Absolutely not! Self harming is just an expression of a struggle, and we all tend to struggle from time to time. While self harming is not necessarily an appropriate coping behavior, it is still a manner of coping with stress, trauma, depression, anxiety, or other related issues. Learning about new ways of handling these issues and reaching out to social supports can make a great difference in the way that our coping skills look. No matter how you feel now, or what you have been through within your life, know that you ARE valuable, important, lovable, and kind.