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How can I resist the urge to self harm to make myself feel again?

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Last Updated: 03/30/2020 at 10:15pm
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Top Rated Answers
February 16th, 2015 3:40am
How i make myself "feel" again is to cry, as much as i want, i let it all out usually listening to meaningful music that describes the situation im experiencing at the moment
May 1st, 2015 3:10pm
There are a number of alternatives to self harm that can be used for similar affects. These include holding an ice cube in your fist, snapping your arm with a rubber band, participating in a physical activity ect. However, it is important to remember that you are not alone, and there are always people who care about you that would love to help you when the urges hit.
May 8th, 2015 8:03pm
There are many ways you can resist the need to self injure yourself. Here are a few: Draw a butterfly where you self harm. If you self harm then the butterfly dies. Instead of self harming you could also draw, sing, or just do what ever makes you happy. This will help you forget about your urge to self harm!
May 14th, 2015 6:11pm
Just remember that self harm is not a means to avoid your problems. If anything, it will hurt you more.
May 28th, 2015 11:08am
Think of something that makes you happy, Find someone you wouldn't want to leave behind. A sibling maybe, how would they feel if you just disappeared one day. Someone loves you with all their heart you just have to find them.
June 10th, 2015 10:35am
from personal experience, one of the best things to do is to squeeze an ice cube in your hand, or if the red is comforting, draw lines in red pen where you would harm yourself.
August 3rd, 2015 12:29am
I resisted the urge to self harm by playing the piano! Piano made me feel things again, I didn't have to cut :) You can also listen to music!
October 11th, 2016 8:50am
I self harmed off and on for many years, and during all that time, I didn't tell anyone about it because I was so ashamed. Then one day it just hit me that I should tell someone. I told my closest friend and showed that person the cuts on my arms and legs that I so carefully hid from everyone. My friend was so understanding and didn't even tell me that I was crazy, which was a major fear on my part. Since that day, I haven't harmed myself. So my suggestion would be to tell someone close to you in person, to take away the shame you feel. Hopefully it will help you to get rid of the urge like it helped me. Good luck.
April 3rd, 2018 6:21pm
Whenever you feel the need to self harm I recommend doing things that make you happy like drawing, music, TV. Or maybe surrounding yourself with people who make you happy also.
March 30th, 2020 10:15pm
I would try to reach out, but since I'm a natural loner I could distract myself by doing the things I like most. If anything, I would rather talk to someone even if it's through the internet to get my mind straight with helpful conversations and advise or something. So far, it has worked. I ended up doing it once only, I'm still not sure why I got the idea. At least I haven't done it again to say the least, I never thought about it again. But in general, distraction would be the way to go.. because in the wrong, mindset everything wrong seems like the good choice.