How can I start accepting my scars?
Last Updated: 10/13/2020 at 2:13pm
Danielle Gonzales, PsyD
Hello! My name is Dani, I am a Psychologist and registered Psych Assistant. I have a passion for helping a different types of clients from all diverse backgrounds!
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Just think of them as battle wounds. You won a battle with yourself you beat your demons and that makes you a superhero and all superheroes get hurt and have scars so don't be ashamed of winning against your demons
By remembering you're through it now. They are scars, they are not fresh cuts. They have healed, you have healed.
I hated my scars. They used to make me anxious. I used to cry when I saw them. Now I choose to see them as a sign of never allowing myself to be defeated. Tiger stripes :D
tell yourself everyday that you're beautiful, that every inch of your skin is important and beautiful you have star dust under your skin and all around you, you are special and so, so beautiful
Accept them by realizing scars are forever, they're now part of you, it is who you are. Think of them in a positive aspect. There's nothing wrong with having scars.
Accepting scars, "scars" does not just apply to physical scars but is even more relevant for mental scars that only you can see, but yet you feel as they standout more then anything. Scars can dig deep and you borrow your feelings inside of them but to express that what ever happened is over and to move forward is to turn that scar into a reminder that you are a survivor and only strong people survive !
you have to accept it. it is going to be part of your recovery, though. your scars are signs that you have passed a lot of bad things and you've stayed strong, you're still alive.
By telling yourself that you're not the only one. Others have scars too. Some accept it some don't. These scars became a part of you that you can't change anymore.
Everyone has a past and if they are apart of yours it's about excepting where you are now and how far you have come in your recovery and feeling proud of yourself !
you can accept you scares by realizing that they are from your past and without them you would not be the person you are today. without going through whatever it was that you went through.
Think of them as battle scars. Battle scars are something to be proud of, they show you fought through to the very end and never gave up.
Your scars are a part of you, they are what makes you, you, they are a symbol of the hard times you went through, they say "hey I went through a bad time but you don't see any fresh wounds so congrats to me because I'm better" your scars are beautiful and you should never be ashamed of them.
Your scars have been there with you at your worst times. Look at your scars as if you have achieved something. Dont hide them but be proud that you have made it so far. That you have fought and won these battles. Scars show you how strong you are. Instead of flashing back to the bad old memories, look at it and smile because you have made it so far and passed one of your worst time of life. It can be painful sometimes to look at it. To make yourself better, try to decorate your scars. Like if you have a scar on your arm, decorate it with glitter and make it prettier than it already is. Scars are a part of your life to show you that you are an amazing fighter, that you are strong, and that you made it. Dont overthink it and think about it too much. You can do this!
Recognize what you have done, but know that they are a sign of healing! Having those scars heal shows that you're onto better habits.
Remember that that's exactly what they are: they're scars. Not cuts or burns or anything else. They're a sign that you're getting better, stronger, and let them encourage you to keep from adding more.
They are proof that you have fought (and won) your own battles. They are symbols of strength because you survived the battle! You're alive!
Slowly take time to think on your scars and how difficult life was then. Compare it to now and slowly work to a mindset that sees it as war proof. Proof you've been through and survived that tough point in life.
When you think about your scars as battling wounds,you can accept them. You should know that they're a part of your story. They tell a story about how a big problem came but wasnt able to defeat you :)
If they're self harm scars, something I tend to do is, think of them as battle scars. Something I say to myself, "These are my battle scars. Proof that I've survived a personal battle, I've lived through a war and this is proof that I am strong. I am resilient. I am a warrior." Seeing them as battle scars makes them a little easier to accept and learn to love.
Accepting your scars is a long journey, it won't happen overnight. You have been through a lot and the scars may remind you of certain times in your past. However, you can change these negative thoughts into positive ones. Think about how amazing it is to have gone through such a hard time in your life, yet you have come out the other end. This shows just how much of a strong person you are! To start accepting your scars, you must accept your past and turn it into something positive. Then, maybe you can start gradually wearing clothes that reveal parts of your skin that are scarred, such as wearing short-sleeve tops. This can help you to be confident in your own skin, and show others that their judgement doesn't affect you. Think of your scars as a battle that you have overcome, and you are proud of them.
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