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How can I stop feeling better after self-harming?

8 Answers
Last Updated: 10/04/2016 at 12:28pm
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Top Rated Answers
January 25th, 2015 10:34am
When the feelings behind why you do it are explored properly. And reminding that voice that its not a glorious thing
January 31st, 2015 8:52pm
There are many ways to feel relief of anxiety, stress, anger, or any negative emotions. If you find yourself self-harming often, try to find one alternative such as creative expression, exercise, or confiding in a friend. Finding alternatives will help you see that there are other ways to relieve yourself and to calm yourself than self-harming.
June 15th, 2015 2:24pm
Unfortunately, endorphins will come from your self harming whether you want them to or not. In my experience, even though I feel better after self harming, I feel so much worse when it wears off. I try to keep this in mind- that even though it will make me feel better for a little while, in the long run I will feel worse.
September 11th, 2015 5:23am
You cant unless you completely stop self harming all together in the long run it will be all be worth it.
February 15th, 2016 4:19am
To start, my darling, you realise that you are better than self-harm. Then, once you find more positive ways to let out your emotions, such as cooking, art, animals etc., you will hopefully find that these work even better for you than self-harm. I read somewhere once, that people get physically addicted to the Endorphins that the body releases after self-harm to protect from the physical pain. So basically, you have to wean yourself off of a natural drug. I hope this helped! 💜
June 14th, 2016 4:09pm
What brings us to self-harm? Do we feel pain on the inside? After we identify what is motivating our self-harm, we can begin to address it. If self-harm is a way of "feeling better", what is causing the need to feel better? What is causing the pain that we want to get rid of? Once we determine those causes, we can talk about how to address them. Therefore, if we address the feelings motivating self-harm, the need to "feel better" that self-harm seems to fulfill will no longer remain. With the guidance of a trust and well-respected professional, you can be better assured that the process is carried out as safely as possible.
August 8th, 2016 8:03am
Most of the time, it is difficult to stop feeling as though self-harm is helping you. It provides you with a very temporary relief and therefore we often think that it is helpful, but in reality we know it is harmful to us. However, some people who are now recovered from self-harm, admit that eventually, it just stopped working for them. Try looking for safe (or safer) alternatives in the mean time. Some good ideas are wearing an elastic band on your wrist, and pulling it when you have the urge to self harm. It is still painful, but will have much less long-lasting damage than other forms of self harm.
October 4th, 2016 12:28pm
You should think about the people who love and really care about you, cause somehow you let them down!