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How do I get help without seeming like I'm desperate for someone to notice my situation?

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Last Updated: 08/06/2018 at 6:46pm
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Top Rated Answers
January 26th, 2015 11:57am
Experts have the right support ! If you have problems you need help with reaching out is safe and smart it's not desperate !
April 16th, 2015 12:14am
Ask. Go to somebody that you trust and feel comfortable with, and directly say to them, "I need help." There is no shame in admitting there is a problem, and it does not make you desperate to want to better your situation. Getting help is such a hard step to take, but it is so absolutely important, and it can truly save your life. Do not be ashamed to ask for help- it takes great strength to admit that there is a problem.
September 29th, 2015 9:29pm
Speak to someone you're close to or come to 7Cups of Tea, there is always listeners here for you and the good thing is, is that they're non-judgmental so you can tell them anything without the listeners judging or mocking you.
April 12th, 2016 11:59pm
This is a very difficult thing to not do as those who are willing to seek help are often genuinely desperate. There's no harm in seeming as you are, of course; it simply helps your case further and makes your issues seem more genuine. Depending upon the help you require, I would suggest you look for a professional who can deal with your issues and give you the help you require such as a doctor or a counsellor. They're there to help you and they're trained for these sorts of scenarios therefore you should be able to get the help you require. :)
September 26th, 2016 8:24am
Well, i usually got a really good friend I can rely on. She helps me with things im dealing with, and the other way around.
April 17th, 2015 10:26pm
I dont think you will ever be viewed as being desperate for someone to notice your situation. It takes a lot of energy to muster up the courage to even recognise you need help and to ask for it. The best way to go about seeking help is to simply just ask :)
April 18th, 2015 10:13am
Just put your hand up and say! You won't seem desperate if you know you need some help, you should never feel ashamed of it :)
June 10th, 2015 5:42pm
You can tell your problems to some close friends, teachers at school , your parents... Someone you trust in, and you know that will help you.
December 14th, 2015 4:23pm
its good to ask for help never feel like it is wrong because if you are feeling bad then you need to tell someone because it is never good to feel bad about your self
December 28th, 2015 6:58pm
Just be as honest as you can. Tell them your thoughts and feelings and if they care about you, they won't think that you are just desperate for attention.
January 16th, 2017 3:57pm
Sometimes you have to show that just to get the attention that is needed for the help. But don't hide that, do go out and ask for the help someone is always out there to help you out, you just have to ask or get up and do so. People can't read mind nor signs all that great so just help them to later help you.
January 2nd, 2018 9:10pm
As much as you may feel annoying, there’s nothing wrong with being ‘desperate’ for help especially if it’s distressing you greatly. Someone who will want to help will definitely not see you as so.
August 6th, 2018 6:46pm
Well you can present the situation as a scenario. You can say that your seeking help for your friend instead of for yourself.