How do I get out of the routine of self-harm, it is something that makes that dark numb feeling go away and frankly I feel addicted to it.

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CallMeADreamer
March 30th, 2015 12:53am
As someone who used to Self-Harm, I had to seek professional help. Having a professional be able to assist me in finding out my triggers, decode my past, and get me to finally stop after years, was the best thing I could have done for myself. You deserve to feel. You can do it! Best of luck!
DecimQuin
April 7th, 2015 9:01am
Well I used to cut myself and frankly it did help me. It did give a nice feeling after something bad had happened. But now that I think about it, it only really caused me more pain every time I look at those scars and remember all the bad things that happened. I started using ice, to get the same numb feeling and it helped a lot.
Anonymous
April 18th, 2015 12:54pm
try to do your hobbies, watch some movies, visit an old friend, there are a lot of things you could do other than self harming yourself
FreakenPuertoRican
June 9th, 2015 1:20am
To get out of the routine of self-harming, you may want to find a better, more constructive solution. Even something like a minor flick of a rubber band can be suffice and won't do much of any damage. Seeking therapy and help from loved ones in addition will definitely help as well.
Zoso67
June 17th, 2015 4:01am
7 Cups is a great way to communicate and understanding your emotions. However, in the event of self-harm, seeking immediate professional help is extremely recommended as self-harm can lead towards more unwanted medical issues.
TheWeepingWillow
July 13th, 2015 2:22am
It is important to understand the emotions that are causing you to harm yourself to begin with. You say you feel numb, therefore harming yourself makes you feel? What positive behaviors can also make you feel? What is it that makes you feel alive, but does not involve hurting yourself. If you're addicted to it, understand it is like any other addiction that needs to be broken and replaced with something more positive. Addictions usually occur when one wants to mask certain feelings. Do you believe you are hiding from certain feelings? Maybe you should come face to face with those feelings and try to sort them out. I know this may be uncomfortable. But sometimes, to get comfortable, we must be uncomfortable first.
PhoenixB
October 27th, 2015 6:21pm
Replace it with something else. When the feeling comes up, (for example:) play a video game or take a walk. Then, after some time, the feeling of you get before you cut will prompt you to play a video game or take a walk instead. That should get rid of the instinct of it. Then work on improving your morale. Do things that make you happy. Maybe bake, dance, or sing. That should help with the dark numbness.
Manifestation
November 9th, 2015 10:14pm
Energy is often an addictive and powerful force. Self harm releases some of this powerful force. What are some ways you can engage in activities that still release that energy without self harm?
lizzle
November 30th, 2015 4:57am
You need to re-evaluate your life and try to find out from what the core is why you feel like you need to have a routine of self harm. There are many suggestions on going a different path to the path of self harm, you could try psychotherapy , you could try hobbies or different ways of getting back your zest for life. The dark numbing feeling is only temporary all them feelings come back, with pain, most people try to keep pushing or hiding the pain rather then facing it and embracing it head on. Only then can pain really truly go away.
LovingPhantom
December 8th, 2015 1:22am
It is possible to get addicted. But there are other ways. You can try using a rubberband and pull it when you get the urge. You can also consider talking to a therapist or a close friend who is willing to help.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 2:10am
Try focusing on positive things. Self harm isn't just cutting. It can include biting, punching and nipping. I should know.
Akatsuya
February 22nd, 2016 6:52am
vigorous exercise or cleaning can help you take your mind off of self harm and can provide a healthy outlet for you.
enchantingdream23
May 24th, 2016 4:02pm
It needs a lot of courage and determination on ones part. Talk to someone who would help you to get out of this habit. Addiction is what I felt too at first but then I realize that it is not worth it. I just look at my scars and I feel sorry and that is the one thing I don't want! Honestly it takes only YOU to get out of the routine of self harm!
blackdarkness1313
August 29th, 2016 12:30pm
I would advise that you do something you enjoy doing like listening to music, drawing, playing a sport, or playing an instrument ect it might help you because it's distracting you from doing something you shouldn't
animalSpace92
October 4th, 2016 7:46pm
I meditate and focus on the positive rather than the negative and I refrain hurting myself. Also when I feel like harming myself I take a rubber band and snap it on my wrist and or ice to my wrists.
lifeabsober34
October 10th, 2016 1:50am
Think of the positive things and how others would think if you didn't show up somewhere and why you did this and where you would end up?
DreamingHeart96
May 8th, 2017 4:55pm
I began thinking of myself as a canvas. And every time I would hurt myself, pieces of the canvas would be torn apart. The relief only lasted as long as the pain did. But the regret lasted longer! You are worth so much more than your pain. You are worth being whole. Don't tear your canvas any longer.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2018 5:38am
Put yourself a little task every time you feel like you want to do it: draw (instead of a blade or any other object you use, take a marker and draw in your skin), listen to music, something that might distract you for a while until you dont crave it.
gracefulHeart76
August 13th, 2018 6:52pm
Find someone who you can go to every time you feel the urge to self-harm. When you feel the urge call them, text them, or have them come over to talk with you. Having someone to support you when you feel overwhelmed with self-harm urges can help break the cycle.