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Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 12:38am
Be honest with them. But only tell them when YOU are ready too. Self harm becomes addicting very fast its a personal thing you should only share if you want to. It's your descion. Good luck 🖒.
Telling my friends and family that I self harmed, in my past, was a very anxious experience. I was very unsure how they would respond but when I did finally gain enough courage to tell them, it was like a weight off my shoulders. I was able to allow others to come and help me. They supported me and made sure I did not do it again. They gave me a shoulder to cry on and lean on when I was feeling weak. It is okay to let people in and allow them to help. You are not alone during this.
Opening up to your friends about self harm is completely up to you. How you choose to do that is also up to you. Personally, I would recommend talking to them somewhere that you feel comfortable. You should also not feel pressured to show them where you hurt yourself because that is something you may not be ready to do especially if you're at a more public place. You should also be prepared for a number of reactions. They could be worried about you and insist on getting you help. They may also not know how to react. They may even blame themselves. If you decide to open up to your friends, you are going to have to be honest with them and yourself. It is not job to take care of them as they process the situation, but you should be aware that they may have a lot of mixed feelings.
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