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How to help a friend with suicidal thoughts?

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Last Updated: 03/01/2021 at 8:57pm
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Top Rated Answers
hopefulParadise73
June 26th, 2018 3:55pm
Listen to what is bothering him or her.Suggest to seek professional help.Try to be understanding and helpful.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2018 8:51am
Try to be there for them and listen to them. Maybe also try to distract them from suicidal thoughts and let them have a good time. If you think they could kill themselves call 911
Anonymous
June 17th, 2019 4:01pm
Try to put yourself in their shoes and know they are in a dark place. Provide support and most importantly just be there as someone who listens and who they can trust. Do not try to fix them and constantly remind them you are proud of how far they have come! Remind them of all the things they have achieved, what they have to looked forward to and how much they are loved. Also remind them there will come a time when they won’t feel this way whether it is in days, months or years but no matter what you will always be there
Anonymous
January 13th, 2020 1:37am
Help the friend understand life is worth living for. Be with the friends as much as you can. Talking with the friend to help them reflect on things on life. It happens to some people when they can see what they are doing in life, get lost and start contemplating an exiting plan. Don't forget to let them know. Death itself creates pain and traumas to people who are left behind. On the other hand, suicidal thoughts are only thoughts. Most people have had thoughts like those. So don't play the blame game with your friend. Shaming and blaming may cause negative outcomes. Care for your friend and act like a friend.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2020 9:38am
It is a very difficult situation your friend is into. To help a friend in deep need of care and protection, one can sometimes go too far and take one's pain on ourselves. There has to be a limit you have to set yourself, a stopping point saying "I cannot help any further". Beyond this point, you should tell your friend to go see a psychologist. It does depend on the thoughts your friend has. Sometimes, just being there, having a friendly chat, really helps. Try and relate as much as possible to your friends' issues without taking his/her pain on yourself.
yellowfeathers
February 15th, 2021 2:02am
The best thing you can do for your friend is to encourage them to seek help from a professional. You can love and support your friend and show them kindness and understanding. But as an untrained person, you have limitations, and that's okay! Suicidal thoughts are a very serious matter and need to be addressed by someone with adequate training. Please encourage your friend to speak to someone, and if they are unable to do so, please reach out yourself if you think they are in danger. 7Cups has many great resources under the advice tab! Please also remember to care for yourself. It can be very difficult to be involved in such an issue, and friends can experience trauma and upset, too. If you can't handle hearing about the details, please don't be hard on yourself, and please speak to someone if you need to as well. Thank you for caring for your friend.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2021 8:57pm
Be a listener and reach out for help. Listen to your friend and what their problems are - sometimes just listening can help someone a lot. However, it is okay if you don't think you can. Make sure to tell a mandatory reporter to ask for help. You can call for help on the crisis line or refer them to the suicide hotline. Any of these can help you friend. Your primary concern to to help them stay safe and for you to stay safe. Make sure to keep in touch with them to let them know that you are there for them.