How to talk about self harm scars to other people?
Last Updated: 02/28/2022 at 5:38pm
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It's not always easy to talk about scars with other and the idea of being judged can be scary that's for sure, but sometimes just being opened and honest with them is good enough and there is less judgement, if you think they may judge you, you can aways make up an excuse to why you have it or let them know you don't feel comfortable talking about it
From one person who has struggled with self harm and has scars to another, I would say own up to it. Don’t let your scars embarrass you or make you feel less than or weak. They are a testament to your strength and determination to get better and your ability to tackle the problems that come your way. When talking to people about them, don’t let them have power. They are just another part of you. Don’t let anyone embarrass you or make you feel anything you don’t want to about them. They are not worth your worrying and they aren’t worth the explaination. You are stronger and better than your scars.
Depending on what person it is and what kind of relationship you share, it differs. Your safety MUST come first at any given time. Take precautions and make sure you tell someone that is open-minded and won’t have a drastic or dramatic reaction as that might influence you negatively. I would suggest you to seek professional help and ask if they can point you towards a support group or if they would want to help you when it comes to opening up about self harm scars. Good luck, you are very brave for wanting to share something so personal and painful.
There are many ways you can. First, have you stopped or are you still self harming? Second, it is important to know how you feel about the scars personally? For example, was it a battle that you have won now that you stopped? Was it a battle scar that reminds you that you have felt that way and can relate to others? The way that you ultimately feel about it will be how you present your own. As in, if you stopped and they were battle scars that showed you’d been there and were better now, someone who was struggling would feel like they had someone they could relate with and have hope to get better.
It can be very difficult to talk about old scars to people. Sometimes they might notice them and ask and if they do that you can usually tell them (if you want to of course), you could tell them you don't feel like discussing it at the moment and have a conversation with them later. If you want to reveal scares to someone instead of having them find them you could sit them down for a conversation and simply explain why you have them. This is a very emotional, private and trusting moment when you're telling them so you might feel a bit uncomfortable. It's also important to keep in mind that while we wish everyone was supportive, for some people it can be difficult to understand right away.
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