I haven't cut in almost 2 years and today I decided to cut and i feel guilty and like im a weak person for self harming is this normal?
Last Updated: 12/07/2020 at 4:23am
Monique Bivins, MA, LPC
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I can understand how this would make you feel guilty, however relapse is a part of recovery! After 2 years, it must've been really difficult to go through this again, but you're incredibly strong for getting this far and you can continue! Life goes on despite relapses, and you can continue with your life regardless - it is okay and you will be okay!
This is a totally normal feeling. But you are not guilty or weak. You are strong and I can tell that because you shared that with us. It's hard but you can get over it. I believe in you.
I am proud of you for not cutting in 2 years, that is something to be so proud of! It is common to slip up every now and and yes you will feel guilty because you have realized that it’s something that you shouldn’t do as there are other things that can help you. You are not weak for this, instead you are showing strength and you are growing stronger everyday, even with the single slip up. This does not make you weak and yes, it can be seen as normal but this doesn’t mean that you should start cutting again, there aren’t many options available for helping you out there.
Yes, thats completely normal, healing is a process, not an event, so it takes a lot of time to recover completely. Taking a step back is a part of this process, try not to look at it as a failure and like all your progress is gone. It is not! This is just another step on the way of you getting better. You're not weak at all, you're just human. Only a strong person can fight sucha strong impulse for so long. You can text me if u need help with anything, i'll try to be as useful as possible.
Cutting is very much like a drug, and it can be just as addicting. You have to treat it like an addiction, and sometimes you'll slip up and turn back to it. There's no shame in your struggle. You just have to recognize that it is an addiction and try and do whatever you can to keep yourself safe in the case that you do relapse. I found that ensuring that my regular tools of self-harm were put away in a place not in my bedroom or space where I spend a lot of time alone was the best way to keep myself safe. That's what it is about, ensuring that you are safe, trying to find healthier coping mechanisms and a support system that you trust to help keep you safe.
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