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I'm hurting myself psychically, but I don't feel any pain. What's going on?

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Last Updated: 12/12/2016 at 4:04am
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Paola Giordani, Psychoanalyst

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I have helped and am helping people cope with loss, divorce, anguish and parenting. Depression is also a major issue that comes up.

Top Rated Answers
April 25th, 2016 10:47am
It sounds like you are going through a tough time at the moment. Could you tell me more about what has been happening?
May 13th, 2015 6:59am
Everything is in your head. You're experimenting a really bad depression. You need help. Talk about it with a professional
November 5th, 2015 2:04am
The answers to this question make me cringe. I also don't feel pain when I harm myself, and that's my only purpose for even doing it. When I hit my arms and legs, I get some sting, but it goes away very quickly and no bruises are left. I'm sure there are a bunch of fancy medical/scientific words to describe it, but I am not a genius in that field, so my interpretation might be different from someone else's. I think it might be one of these three reasons: 1. Perhaps your situation or your emotions are so severe that the pain doesn't faze you. 2. Maybe you've gotten too used to the pain and need to try something else. (Hopefully something that doesn't lead to self-destruction.) 3. You might have some medical condition, or there's something wrong with the clotting of your blood. If that's the case, it might help to go see a doctor.
June 17th, 2015 3:02pm
You are numbing yourself by using self harm. Whatever you are dealing with is so emotionally disheartening that you're rejecting all emotions and pain.
June 5th, 2015 4:35pm
You shouldn't be hurting yourself at all, whether it hurts or not you should stop and seek help from the self harm book on the website.
December 12th, 2016 4:04am
Sometimes the pain inside of us can be so overehelming that our body can feel numb and therefore we can not feel the pain as it is nowhere near the amount of pain we feel inside.
January 25th, 2016 12:31pm
Maybe you had to much pain in your life, it is possible that you started to diassosiate. This means you are not feeling as one with your body.
January 29th, 2016 2:35pm
Youre just numb. That happens a lot. When you self harm sometimes you cant feel what's youre physically doing to yourself.
May 5th, 2015 12:48am
There are some which physical pain isn't what they are searching but the sight of self harming or the thought of doing it. A lot of self-harm actually seek for short-term pain rather things that will heal over a long period of time. Self harming is not only about pain but about more thing such as sight and thoughts. Although the different motives, self harming is indeed bad and addictive and should be stopped. There is a great guide on the website and a lot of good listeners to help to cope with self harming,
November 8th, 2015 1:20am
You transform you psychological pain into physical. But as long its troubling your mind, it will damage your body. So I highly suggest you sit down with yourself and relativise with logic, not emotions to solve your problems. Whatever the life you are living, stay strong and forge the ultimate, greatest, best You. I hope you great patience and endurance in this journey. Good luck buddy!! :D
September 26th, 2016 3:08am
It souds like you got somehow detached from your body. I think you might feel physicaly numb so that your pain triggers aren't working as they should. It might be an effect of some sort of medication you are currently taking or caused by psychological reasons. I hope I could help.