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Is it normal to feel the urges to self-harm after you've stopped for months?

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Last Updated: 12/27/2021 at 1:06am
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Top Rated Answers
May 16th, 2016 11:07pm
Yes it is. But this is all part of the recovery process, I know it can be hard but fight these urges and don't let them undo all of your hard work
May 17th, 2016 3:44pm
I believe so. Because self-harm releases endorphins which make you feel better instantly, your body sees them as a way to feel happy. Because it was a behavior that did something before, your body wants to do it again to feel better. Keep fighting!
June 21st, 2016 6:46am
It's very normal to feel urges to self-harm. Because self-harming may have made you feel alive or you miss that adrenaline. But other things in life can bring more adrenaline than this method.
August 8th, 2016 2:45am
yes, i was there. i did that. it's normal to feel the urge. but if you distract yourself, it quickly passes.
October 3rd, 2016 2:49am
Yes it is completely normal to have urges.
May 8th, 2017 4:43am
I would say that yes it is normal. Self harm is something you have to battle everyday so even after months of stopping it can be hard to not relapse. Although If you were feeling this way I would suggest trying to talk to someone.
May 22nd, 2017 2:48am
Yes. There will always be relapses and relapse urges. The best things to do are call a friend, sqeeze some ice in your hand, and start doodling on the nearest possible surface. Use skin if you need. It's perfectly normal and it's ok if you give in every once in a while. It's part of the healing process.
February 4th, 2018 4:44pm
Yes, self harm can be addictive and its a coping method we know might work for us to its normal to still have urges sometimes.
July 26th, 2018 12:35am
Yes it usually is specially if you self harmed for a long time or it became really bad. It stays with you.
December 27th, 2021 1:06am
Self-harm is an extremely difficult thing to overcome. After experiencing relief that might come with self-destruction it can become addictive. I have stopped self-harming almost 5 years ago now and to this day it still crosses my mind. When I do something I don't like, when I hear something that hurts me. The urge never went away for me but it did get better. There's relief in self-harm, but it doesn't compare to the peace that comes with self-love. The important thing is to stay strong, remember why you stopped and keep going. It takes so much courage and determination to stop - and the rest is patience and self forgiveness.