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Me and my mom are really close. I love her very much , but she doesn't know I cut and I wanna tell her. But I feel like it would break her. How do I tell her?

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Last Updated: 11/29/2021 at 8:49pm
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October 23rd, 2018 6:03pm
If you don't want to say it face to face, try to write it. Write (say) that you're sorry, but you're doing something that you're not proud of. That you know it will make her sad, but you have to say it. Tell her you want to help from her and that you love her so much and you're sorry. Try to put your emotions there. Maybe she can be sad and maybe she can cry. I know it. But if you really love her, u have to tell her it, even it's very hard to do it.
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December 12th, 2017 3:33pm
Tell her. She would love your honesty. She loves you much more than you can possibly imagine. Sit with her and tell her everything.
November 29th, 2021 8:49pm
When a person self-injures, they're hurting in a way that someone who loves them deeply can be very very helpful. Understand that self-harm usually comes from feeling very intense negative feelings which the person can't figure out how to manage in another way. I'm sure if you had a way of handling those feelings that was healthier, you'd do that right? Maybe that's even what's motivating you to think about trusting mom with this? Because deep down you want help finding a better way to manage? You're right that mom will feel sad and maybe even guilty when you trust her with this knowledge. I really hope you do trust her to ask for help, because there IS real help out there for you. Together with mom's love, I hope you can find it.
June 18th, 2018 8:33am
I've felt the same way, and it is even harder when she goes "I'm so glad you aren't depressed and hurting yourself like most teens these days" But at the end of the day, she is my mother. And if I decided to tell her, she wouldn't love me any less. If you feel like you want to tell her, you should do it. Your mom will love you always, no matter what. You should expect her to be upset, but she's not upset at you, she's upset that you're hurting. You should sit her down, and let her know you need to have a serious talk with her. Let her know you're telling her this not to hurt her, but because you really want her to know. Tell her how you feel. You've got this!
June 30th, 2020 3:29pm
This is a difficult question to answer because it really will depend on your relationship. But i think it's important to find a time when you can be undisturbed. Make it clear you have something important to talk about. Then, just say it. You don't need to sugar coat it. just be honest and explain what you do. Your mom will need time to react, so be brave and paitent and give her time to respond. The rest will happen on it's own. If you two have a good relationship she will just want to understand more than anything else. She will probably be upset and maybe even hurt by it, but she would still rather know. Good luck.
November 25th, 2017 5:57am
I definitely understand how you feel, so on one hand I feel hypocritical offering any advice. However, it sounds like you have a pretty good relationship with your mom already, so that should really help. Is she fairly level-headed? I think that’s fair, drop hints and stuff, but ultimately, and I know this is cliche, but you just being honest with her will make her happier. If you’re able to get to a point where you’re honest when you feel like cutting, she’ll know that you’re trying to make a change and take care of yourself, and as your mother, I’m sure she’d try to do everything she can to help you do that. Maybe these are all cliches, but I hope that helps some
November 23rd, 2017 9:25am
I would say try to give her hints at first if telling her directly scares you... For example ask her what do she think about self-harm ... she'll surely understand you want to talk about this ...