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What do I do to stop self harming myself?

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Last Updated: 12/21/2021 at 9:43pm
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Anonymous
February 4th, 2019 2:59am
You could try many alternatives. Ice cube, rubber band, red ink, those are 3 of many techniques that helped many people subsitute for self harm.
hopefulEagle2471
February 18th, 2020 11:36am
Often knowing what precedes an episode of self harm can be very helpful. If you know what brings it on, it can be a lot easier to avoid getting yourself into a situation where you feel like self harming. Identifying some calming methods can also be useful. Perhaps listening to music helps you to relax, or it could be doing some deep breathing, going for a walk, or just paying attention to your surroundings quietly. Having calming methods can help you change or reduce the urge to self-harm. It can also help you manage stressful situations before they turn into crises that result in self-harm compulsions. Whilst you hope to stop self-harming altogether from the start, it can be helpful to also forgive yourself for having the urge to self-harm in the first place. Remember that you don't deserve the experience in any way, nor do you necessarily have to justify and explain your actions to yourself or others. Self-harming is a common behavior in answer to stress and other life events. Seeing a professional counselor can help you deal with the issues that brought on the behavior, whilst
Vintagii
May 31st, 2021 1:30am
Here’s a solution I find very helpful, is rubbing ice on your wrists. Sometimes, if you get red food dye on the spot you want to cut. Then put a rubber band over it and flick it really hard/ pull it. Do NOT refrain yourself from scissors, maybe box cutters. Refraining yourself from every sharp thing you see will only lead to you thinking your never safe if you have a blade in your proximity. Instead, tell yourself you will not cut with every sharp object you see. That will put the practice into your mind that you no longer need or feel a need to cut. Message me if you need anymore help!!^^
Anonymous
December 21st, 2021 9:43pm
There is no easy solution to this. Self harm is a symptom of something greater however, you can find many healthy coping mechanisms to help. You can have a chat with me if you want to, and we can go into more detail? Some ways to cope can be things such as using a piece of ice on the area you want to self harm, or simple squeezing the ice. You could try pinching yourself, punching a pillow or something else of that source. There are many great apps, such as calm harm and calm urge, which will give you options to distract yourself, express yourself and other ways of coping. Recovery from self harm takes a long time and there's always a reason you do it, just as there was a reason you started. You are valid. Never feel your self harm is not bad enough or deep enough. You are loved and it can be such a tricky thing to cope with but remember you are cared about. Self harm is a way to cope, it's just not a healthy way. Feel free to message me < 3