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Why do I believe that hurting myself isn't really that big of a deal?

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Last Updated: 05/04/2020 at 4:36am
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Anonymous
May 4th, 2020 4:36am
i think that we believe it is okay for ourselves to hurt ourselves without it being a big deal because we are so used to feeling pain, but when someone else does it we realize the effect it has and how damaging it truly is. it is one of those things where people say its not good EXCEPT when i do it. we always think we deserve it but nobody else does. the reality is we believe others shouldn't do it, then we are part of the everybody that shouldn't self harm our hurt ourselves. if we believe someone else should not, why is it any different for you.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2015 4:40am
when you first start, it seems scary but when you start more and more, it doesn't feel as if its too bad. As long as you are not putting yourself in danger. But what you don't realize about it is if someone who loves you finds out you are doing it, it will break their heart because they love you and don't want you to hurt yourself in any way. Its a very big deal because it is bad for yourself and others around you.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2015 10:19pm
This is a bad feeling to have. I think you might be suicidal. Call 911 immediately and seek help from professional.
goldenVision61
May 8th, 2015 12:26am
You might look to it as it to be "normal", which is okay. There's people out there that will help you for sure. You make find it a right thing, especially if you are going through hard times. We are always here on 7 Cups.
BradyHero
January 9th, 2017 8:34pm
Many people minimize the issue of self-harm because they see it as only a coping strategy. I know that I minimized self-harm whenever I chose to do it for that exact reason.
gracefulForever57
June 1st, 2015 12:54am
when you do something for so long you don't see a problem with it and you begin to think that its okay ever though im sure a part of you knows its not, but you do it anyways because it gives you a sense of relief, it may seem like its not a big deal but it really is, think of the consequences what if one day you drink to much, cut to deep, smoke one to many, etc. you just got to tell yourself everyday that it is a big deal.
Anonymous
August 30th, 2015 6:17am
Most cutters think the something until they try to stop or brake the habit of self harming. it is a big deal and a problem that needs to be solved
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2016 10:40pm
Most of the time, people hurt themselves because their family or friends stop them from showing emotion around them, so people resort to self harm. I know a lot about it, just try and find a way to shift your negative energy into a better effective outcome. Say, if someone says you'll be unsuccessful, try not to be discouraged, instead, show them how amazing of a person you are by succeeding.
Anonymous
September 11th, 2017 5:07pm
It's true when they say some people really are their worst enemy. If it was someone else you knew hurting themselves you'd be devastated yet if its you, you don't mind. Self harm is a big deal and very serious, no mater who struggles with it. Maybe it's because you feel you deserve to feel that way or do that to yourself, but i can assure you, you do not deserve to feel that pain and feel as though its not a big deal x