Why do I feel guilty for cutting when it has been a year since i done it?
Last Updated: 03/30/2021 at 7:45pm
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Guilt works in weird ways! Randomly the guilt can pop into your head from something years and years ago completely unrelated to anything going on in your life now - the other day I suddenly felt guilty about taking my sisters Barbie when we were 7 or 8! You can feel guilt about your self harm but also use that as a way to look positively on the fact you have not done it in so long and that your mindset has obviously changed so much as to that being a negative
firstly, CONGRATULATIONS!! going a year without self-harm is an amazing accomplishment and you should be incredibly proud of yourself!! now, to answer your question, feeling guilty for self-harm is very common and completely understandable. self-harm is considered a negative thing (reasonably, considering it involves hurting yourself). however, while i know how hard it is, it's important to forgive yourself for that. people who self-harm are in pain, and self-harm is an addictive way to cope. i'm proud of you for going without self-harm for such a long time, and now the next step is to be compassionate towards yourself for doing so.
You feel guilty because you realize that it was a wrong thing to do but realization is sometimes the best reward. You have realized it and understood the repercussions. Now you need to identify what was the root cause that made you choose that route. Instead of feeling guilty of the action , you need to solve the problem that actually forced you. Remember that cutting was not the problem or the solution. Unless that underlying problem is not solved, it may get you to the same route again. Also to get over it is to help others making them aware of the wrong that comes with it.
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