Why does everyone run away from me and my scars?

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Last Updated: 05/20/2019 at 1:35am
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Top Rated Answers
bemysolaris
January 24th, 2015 1:32pm
Beacuse they are not strong enought.And because they know it inside.Not everybody understands self harm
Eluna
March 27th, 2015 2:04pm
Some people just don't understand how to deal with people who have scars, so they try to tend to avoid it so they don't run across any sensitive topics- like, they don't want to purposefully hurt your feelings if they say something that you might not like.
Anonymous
April 9th, 2015 2:24pm
They just are not used to it. Give it time and they could be nicer. Anything is possible if you have the patience to wait for it to happen.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2015 11:19pm
People may run away from your scars because they don't quite understand. They don't know the feeling when someone gets to hate themselfs that much to want to feel something so they self harm. So they don't understand.
RedPanda01
May 9th, 2015 4:14pm
Certain people do not understand the concept of depression along with physical and mental scars. So when they see it they assume certain unpleasant things about you because they honestly do not know how to react to it. So you have to find a certain way to first make them comfortable about it. And explain it to them like you are explaining a 6-yr old. Its funny but it really works :)
Dailydaydreama
May 15th, 2015 10:31am
What others do isn't the important part ! It's what you do and how you self care 😊 that's most valuable !
Anonymous
May 24th, 2015 7:46am
People will run from problems they don't want to get into. It seems like they don't want to get tangled up into something they don't know about, perhaps.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 9:45pm
People find it difficult to understand what they have not experienced an worry they may be too naive
deinfreund
September 22nd, 2015 12:37am
Many people don't understand the effects of depression and the urges to self-harm. It's important to surround yourself with people who do understand and can provide support and empathy to help you get through this time!
William0
November 10th, 2015 10:49am
Scars are a difficult thing to approach, while they may be a part of who you are and they might have significant meaning to you, other people may not understand why. And that is where a possible awkward conversation may or may not arise, as to say the elephant in the room. Sometimes being asked about scars to us, might not seem like a big deal at times. Talking about it is not something every can or wants to do. Just because they are there, doesn't mean you have to stare. Unfortunately most people won't know what to do at the time and it may lead to a mental stare off. Unless you are comfortable with asking or show and telling. But it is a perfectly reasonable response and if you feel comfortable with answering, let them know they can ask questions if they want just to set aside the awkward area we're in.
hopefuldrifter
December 1st, 2015 3:19pm
People are scared of what they don't understand. It's nothing personal, they just don't know how to react correctly.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2015 9:13pm
Sometimes people run away from the unknown because it scares them. Some people may not understand why you have scars and may be anxious or nervous causing them to run away.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2016 5:01pm
Hey :) first of all, I'm sorry you have to experience this kind of situations, some people are afraid of what they don't understand, some people don't like to think outside the box and it's okay. It's just that they have another way of thinking. They shouldn't be mean though but we know how people can be sometimes. My advice for you is to stay strong and try to live life to the fullest, the journey at the end will be amazing, just hold on and don't let anyone make you feel worthless or miserable, you are amazing!! I'm very proud of you for trying to seek help in things that you might not understand, that's why this community exists. Please feel free to reach anyone on this community if you'd like to talk.
Probius
June 6th, 2016 2:58pm
People fear things they don't understand, and most people do not understand self-harm. This does not mean that there is anything wrong with you.
Shhh123
August 15th, 2016 5:40am
They arent running away from you, you might have just given the person a fright, and if you have known someone a while they might have felt hurt.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2016 11:03am
Perhaps it's because the idea of getting to know someone on such an intense, deep level frightens people. In order to know someone well enough to accept your scars, they'd have to open up themselves.
strawberryPudding82
December 13th, 2016 10:08am
Probably because they don't know how to react. Of course it may be a shock, depending on how your scars are, but once they find out what a nice person you are, they will see beyond the scars. Don't feel bad about those who just stay away from you. Those people have their mental scars to deal with which could be just as bad as physical scars or worse. Keep reaching out and don't quit. We all belong, just sometimes we have a hard time finding our niche. People with invisible scars can have an even worse time because they look good but then feel the great let down when they are ostracized because of the scars that show through once people get to know them. Healing is a tough process for all of us.
CheriiC
May 20th, 2019 1:35am
Some people are not adept at handling such intense issues or dealing with the physicality of some of these symptoms. It's a painful thing to have to deal with but anyone who chooses to leave due to what you're going through, or have been through, is not someone who would be able to adequately support or embrace you. Think of it as them doing you a favour. There are many people out there who don't bat an eye at scars, who don't judge or pull away. Be patient with yourself and eventually you will find the people who will accept you fully.