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Why is self harm wrong as a coping technique?

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Last Updated: 11/05/2018 at 5:11pm
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May 14th, 2015 6:13pm
Self harm can cause more damage and be potentially fatal. A better coping technique would be to talk about your problems. Hearing kind words is a better coping technique than hurting yourself.
May 16th, 2015 3:39am
Self harm in an unhealthy coping technique. As a previous self harmer, I understand that sometimes it seems like the best way to deal with your emotions, but there are other ways out there! Try to think of positive ways to cope, such as singing, writing, playing sports, or other activities!
July 27th, 2015 6:17pm
First of all it is not 'wrong' as such it is dangerous. From my own experience I know that even though you may think you are self harming 'safely'. Things may go terribly wrong. Secondly, there are social norms and in some societies self-harm is not a norm.
September 28th, 2015 7:38pm
Self harm is just adding another difficult thing to all the other problems in your life. Finding a coping method that you won't have to find a coping method for is what you should try and find.
April 9th, 2015 2:55am
I used to self harm. It hurt everyone around me and myself. There are so many better options that don't scar or hurt!
May 7th, 2015 10:57pm
Self harm is a negative coping technique because it doesn't do anything to help the situation. The short term relief it offers isn't worth the long term negative effects and it only adds to your pain instead of decreasing it.
July 13th, 2015 12:05am
It is dangerous and escalates into more unhealthy coping techniques, such as suicidal thoughts. Also, learning better coping techniques will keep you safe in the future.
July 21st, 2015 12:00am
Self-harm is hurting you, when you don't need to hurt. It becomes addicting and can hurt you beyond repair.
August 3rd, 2015 3:47pm
Self harm is wrong as a coping technique because it does absolutely nothing to help. As someone who has dealt with major self esteem issues, depression, and anger problems, it just sets things back. We are supposed to love not harm. Hurting yourself only sets back progress.
August 18th, 2015 1:55am
Because while one believes it alleviates stress, in reality, it does not solve anything and simply harms your body.
November 3rd, 2015 11:19pm
Self harm isn't wrong as such, its a unhealthy coping technique and it would be good to find alternatives that don't damage you.
December 8th, 2015 3:31pm
really it isn't 'wrong' but there are better ways to cope - and for some that continue to self - harm it can become dangerous.
January 12th, 2016 11:35pm
It's wrong because it harms you. It's painful and it's followed by shame and guilt. It doesn't at all get to the root of the issue. It's scarring physically and emotionally. As difficult as it may be, professional care must be sought after as well as moral support.
February 1st, 2016 4:36am
Because it leaves scars forever and they're not pretty at all. Also, if you go too deep, you could potentially do ligament damage or die
February 1st, 2016 11:01pm
I know self harming is wrong as a coping technique because it solved literally nothing. Why on earth would I make a problem worse by damage my perfectly functional body? Anyone who cuts owes those that are disabled and bouquet of flowers and an apology. What's worse is that self harm leaves scars, so once someone is done being stupid and hurting themselves they have to hid their scars or bruises because they're ashamed of what they've done. Self harm is wrong in every way, shape, and form.
February 2nd, 2016 5:26pm
it is a temporary "placebo" solution. its effect only lasts for a few seconds. self harm does not deal with the real issue, the real question is why do you need a coping technique! And to discover that you have to seek help and explore your emotions.
February 16th, 2016 8:49am
Self harm is an inappropriate chopping technique because it causes more harm and more issues than other, healthier coping techniques.
March 15th, 2016 9:57am
Self harm is very bad. Using it as a coping technique isn't good for you physically or emotionally. Try to instead read a book, you can try screaming into a pillow or biting a pillow, or jumping up and down.
March 21st, 2016 5:36pm
Because the real problem is that you believe you are the reason everything went wrong. So you hurt yourself in attempt to cope the problem. While the real reason is something else. It is something you should figure out by yourself and with other people (profesional can give great help).
May 30th, 2016 3:18am
I asked myself this a lot when I was going through depression. Scars are permanent. Cuts can get easssilllyy infected, especially if you're using sharp objects that haven't been cleaned.
July 18th, 2016 5:01pm
Self harm does more harm than it does good, furthermore it provides long lasting evidence and reminders of your pain.
October 10th, 2016 1:56am
Because you can cause serious damage to a problem that can be solved. You could cut to deep or even get a blood poisoning. Its best to try and find a less harmful way of dealing with problems.
January 23rd, 2017 5:16pm
I think it depends on what the self harm is. As someone who has self harmed myself, I am not going to tell you it is "wrong" as such, however I would advise you to seek some help with it. Talking can be a great way to figure out why you need to self harm, and thinking about other ways to help you cope instead
August 1st, 2017 3:46pm
Self harm is wrong as a coping technique because you are bringing harm to your body. I don't think being at that level of wanting to hurt yourself is healthy and you should find different ways to cope. There are plenty of more ways to cope, such as drawing, writing, playing an instrument, doing sport and overall using distractions around you to cope. If you are finding it hard to get away from self harm there are always ways to do it without necessarily using something that with hurt your body. Try drawing on the places where you were about to self harm. Or you could put ice on those places either. I hope these help!
November 21st, 2017 7:53am
Because it fails to achieve it's goal of helping to make things better. It might feel better in the moment, however, in the medium and long term, those kinds of behaviors have significant risk factors associated with them, which tend to increase stress factors, instead of reduce them.
February 22nd, 2018 2:39pm
Self harm can be addicting and it's not healthy because it can be potentially very dangerous
November 5th, 2018 5:11pm
While self harm may provide a release at the time and diminish your pain, it’s not a long term solution. I know it can help and be really hard to stop, I’ve been there. My arms will never look the same again and I even affected a nerve from repeated deep cuts. It’s not worth it. It’s dangerous. I ended up in the hospital for stitches when I cut too deep. Small cuts may work at first but it escalates as it becomes no longer enougg to June the pain. It’s dangerous, they can get infected, it’s hard to hide and people can be judgmental. It’ll be a reminder the rest of your life. Replacing it with healthy coping mechanisms is really difficult, I know. But it’s worth it. I’ve replaced it with healthy things like mindfulness, knitting, music, exercise for the release of endorphins that create happy chemicals in the brain, can find ways that work that don’t involve self harm. It’s difficult but it’s more than worth it. I’m not recovered, but I haven’t self harmed in months and I’m grateful and happy to have stopped. I plan to stay strong and I believe you can too!