Why stop if it helps?

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Last Updated: 11/13/2017 at 8:41am
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Anonymous
September 22nd, 2015 1:55pm
Your questions is a valid one as well as something that I use to always ask when dealing with my personal struggles. It is important to find healthy ways to cope and deal with things so that no harm comes to ourselves or others. Unhealthy habits should be prevented and stopped because after so long you become almost dependent on this developed habit; and in the moment it can be hard to see that what is being done is harmful and it may not be entirely helping with things. The relief is short lived, and this prevents you from finding better ways of coping, this habit can become addictive, and not letting go of this puts you at risk for bigger problems down the line.
neverletlifetakeyourspark
April 16th, 2015 8:00pm
Sweetie, it doesn't really help. You only think it does. I promise you it is so much better once you recover. It does take take some time and effort, but you can do it. I used to think that it helped me, too. But it didn't. It made everything 1000x worse. I did it. I got better. So can you.
bestTruth96
January 14th, 2015 3:16am
Not all coping skills are positive. You would argue that someone with anorexia says I do feel in control when I don't eat, but that is not healthy. Someone who cuts says it is a release, but self mutation is not healthy.
Anonymous
April 9th, 2015 2:31pm
Let me answer your question, with a question. If the relief is only temporary, why not find a healthier long term solution?
Anonymous
April 30th, 2015 9:09pm
Ask yourself if it's really helping or if it's going to do harm in the long term future. If you can't come up with a good answer, you should probably stop.
LilyFlowers
May 6th, 2015 3:27am
Is this a drug or cutting question? Stop because it's dangerous and damaging. We have to look at what is truly "helping". quote on quote helping in one area yet killing us or damaging other things isn't exactly helping.
UniqueLife
June 6th, 2015 2:57pm
because it can harm you and others. think about the consequences. there must be something, even if just one. think about it.
JoCarla46
July 7th, 2015 7:26am
because it is not good for you. it is not good for your mental and physical health. you have to stop, whatever the bad thing you do for yourself.
Jay22822
August 18th, 2015 4:08pm
Because it doesn't help. Your mind just tricked you into thinking it does. But it really doesnt. Sometimes we think it does but then we realize it doesnt.
jediforce
October 9th, 2015 7:35am
All these answers are valid and positive reasons to stop participating in self-harm. However, after I stopped cutting, I realized the most gratifying and relieving benefit was the fact that it really, dramatically decreased my depression and loneliness. It seems counterintuitive to a cutter or self harmer because of the deep satisfaction and comfort that these forms of destruction provide. However, having such a big secret for me to hide and constantly being reminded of my unhappiness by the cuts, created in me a greater and almost insurmountable despair. Just a week or two after cutting, I felt immediately happier and more at peace. Granted, the months that followed were tougher, but I pushed through it. And, today I'm a much happier person.
CastleIrwell
November 11th, 2015 8:59pm
It does not help whatsoever. It triggers your brain into believing it helps, but it does not. Self-harming can actually increase anxiety levels, insecurity, and depression.
NadineH
November 17th, 2015 6:37pm
you've to think about other things, like does it harm you but at the same time helps? that's not helpful this is trying to distract yourself which isn't helpful so it's not just about it helps.
LovingPhantom
December 8th, 2015 1:24am
If it is harmful to your body, you should stop, even if it provides comfort. Because in the long run, you can seriously hurt your body permanently.
Nothingbutnet32
January 4th, 2016 7:55pm
Drugs ''helped'' me with sorrow but they were really just killing me more than sorrow ever could it was never worth it
BenS
February 2nd, 2016 7:33pm
Because sometimes what helps right now, is not a long term solution. Cuts and bruises heal, but the marks it leaves on your mind will never. It is not an option, and it is not worth risking your life for. There are many other ways t cope.
introspect1ve
February 23rd, 2016 4:30am
It may help now, but in the long run you will be unhappy and regretful. Try instead to replace bad habits with healthy ones, and you will achieve long term happiness.
musicalUnicorns68
March 9th, 2016 1:37pm
I have often asked myself the same question.... but my family always tell me if i went that bit too deep or anything it could kill me. They get concerned. I dont know what support you have but you have me
Anonymous
February 1st, 2017 12:28am
Because not everything you want or desire actually helps. And somethings only help sometimes. A medication only helps if prescribed by a doctor. And self harm never helps. I know from experience. Get better soon. I believe in you.
Alysse001
July 11th, 2017 9:44am
Many techniques we use to feel better or offer ourselves relief can be identified as "negitive coping skills." Something may give you a temporary "high", but if it has the potential to harm you/others, or does harm to you, these negative coping strategies can create more harm than good. You can learn to identify and stop a negitive technique before it settles in, or end any current negitive coping skill when it is dealt with by hard work, a strong will, and persistency. With time, support, and the use of positive coping skills, there is no end to what you can accomplish.
HelpWisely
October 24th, 2017 10:10am
It depends on what you are using that is helping you. Many thinks can help but can also be harmful or addictive like drugs, alcohol or self-harming. If something helps that does not cause dependence or addiction or physical/mental pain or damage then it’s helpful in a positive way.
Anonymous
November 13th, 2017 8:41am
That would normally be a good thing when we look at it in isolation. However, oftentimes we need to look also at the overall picture in which the act exist in.