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Will I be ever to fully resist the urges of self harm?

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Last Updated: 09/11/2018 at 9:55am
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January 12th, 2015 1:03am
I guess this is a personal question, but can one ever be strong enough to resist those urges? Yes, I used to wonder if I would ever feel strong enough to resist those urges on my own and the truth is that after a few years these urges became less and less frequent. At this time of my life, after 9 years clean, I might get an urge only once in a year (if its being a really really tough time) or even less frequent and they are not as nearly powerful as they were before. Its a tough road but it is possible to recover from a self harming addiction.
April 11th, 2015 6:37am
Somedays yes. Other days maybe not. Keep trying and you can stop. No progress is made without patience
May 10th, 2015 4:41am
When you've been self harming a while it's sometimes hard to think of a time where you'll be able to resist the urges completely. I assure you there is hope. It's important to find coping mechanisms that best work for you. Always try new ones and don't lose hope. Put all your effort into trying to resist urges and try to distract yourself when they come along.
April 11th, 2015 7:02pm
It's certainly a difficult thing to accomplish, but I have many friends who have successfully overcome their self harm habit. Know that the longer you go without cutting, the less you will feel the urges to self harm. One day you will be able to say "I don't want to do that to myself anymore".
June 5th, 2015 5:37pm
Yes, you will. Recovery is hard and takes time, but we are all here for you to help you along the way. Now it may feel like and endless loop of temptation, but it gets better. Day by day, it will get better.
July 7th, 2015 3:55pm
yes, with help, support and a lot of work you will find other ways to be able to cope with negative emotions or situations
September 21st, 2015 7:00am
Short answer: Yes. Long answer: It takes time, but you will. You just have to keep trying, but don't get mad at yourself in you have a relapse. I've never known anyone to recover without having a few mistakes.
March 1st, 2016 10:27am
Yes, it may be difficult at first but eventually, you will. Just have the courage to resist temptation.
May 9th, 2016 2:20pm
Yes. It is possible to overcome self-harm. Talking to a trusted person is a good place to start!!!!!
April 10th, 2017 11:21am
I think it possible. Everyone is different so it depends on you. Even though, personally its been over a year since I've self harmed, I still get urges. Just remember that there are ways to cope with the urges and eventually as time goes forward the urgency of self-harm diminishes.
February 20th, 2018 6:21pm
Yes! Hiding/getting rid of any objects you can self-harm with can decrease the urge to self-harm as they aren't really available for you to just grab. It's also a really good idea to try other coping techniques as they can produce the same effect without the negative impacts on your body.
September 11th, 2018 9:55am
Absolutely. If you actually out in the effort of bettering yourself it is absolutely possible. There was a good three years of my life where self harm was my biggest vice, I thought I would never be able to stop. But I don't even think about it anymore!! With some really good friends and a supportive family, as well as some professional help, it is completely possible to resist. There are also several other things you can do in place of the self harming. Like drawing on your skin with a soft topped pen or marker. Or running ice on where you want to hurt yourself. I personally used to write. But the biggest thing to remember is that you're not alone, and you don't deserve the pain you cause yourself.